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"The 8 Personality Types That
Naturally Attract Women"
By David DeAngelo
©2001, All Rights Reserved.

The Bad Guy Notice:
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distribute, or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part, or to
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Now that we're finished with the bad guy notice, let's learn about how to be
successful with women...

The Lover And Provider Personalities
The Eight Personality Types Of Men Who Are Successful
With Women
After studying women, relationships, evolution, and psychology for the
last several years, I've come across some startling information.
I now believe that women have two kinds of 'mental programs' when it
comes to men. And when I say the word 'programs' I mean it. Specifically, I
mean that they are programmed from birth by their genes, as well as by
society to respond UNCONSCIOUSLY to two different types of men that fit
their mental pictures.
In psychology, the term 'archetype' is used to describe a mental
structure that operates on an unconscious level. I'm going to use the term
'personality types' here to describe this concept.
In a nutshell:
? I believe that women respond AUTOMATICALLY to certain men, and
that most of this response is based on the man's personality,
communication, achievements, etc. - not his looks (don't get me
wrong. Looks are important. But they're not nearly as important in
the long run as personality).
? Women are usually not consciously aware of why they react to these
Personality Types.
? These personalities can be divided into two basic groups: The Lover
and The Provider.
? Women respond to Lover personalities by having sex with them
immediately.
? Women respond to Provider personalities by withholding sex in order
to make the man prove that he will stay loyal for the long run.
? There are also several 'unsuccessful' personality types. By
unsuccessful, I mean that these types are not attractive to most
women. (If you're one of these, don't take it personally. Try
something different. I did.)

These are the two mental roads - Lover (short term) or Provider (long
term). If you get on one road, it's hard to get off. So choose wisely.
For each of the two successful Personality Types, there are four
variations. These are created by combining the factors of 'Dominant vs.
Submissive' with the basic personalities. This brings the total to eight sub-
types that are successful with women.
Here's a little chart that shows the personality types. There are two
personality types in each box. For instance, the 'Bad Boy' and the
'Adventurer' are in one box, but they are separate personalities.
Lover
Provider
Self Oriented
Her Oriented
Seduces Women
Courts A Woman
Dominant
'Bad Boy'
'Successful Guy'
(He controls)
'Adventurer'
'Daddy'
Submissive
'Seducer'
'Regular Guy'
(She controls)
'Artist'
'Ass Kisser'
And here's a short description of the eight personalities with the appeals that
they have to women:
Lover Personalities:
? Bad Boy (danger) Someone who's dangerous and thrilling to be around.
? Adventurer (fun) Someone who's fun and exciting to be around.
? Seducer (sex) Someone who is sensual and sexy and makes her feel
sexy.
? Artist (Musician, Poet) (emotion) Someone who moves her emotions and
is enigmatic and complex.
Provider Personalities:

? Successful Guy (means) Someone who provides a great lifestyle and
stability.
? Daddy (control) Someone who tells her what to do and controls her.
? Regular Guy (loyalty) Someone who is down to earth, loyal and stable.
? Ass Kissing Guy (her boy) Someone who gives her whatever she wants.
Most of the women in this world will respond to ALL of these
personalities to one extent or another.
Now, if you read what other authors say about how to be successful
with women, they will usually teach you only what works for THEM. I'm
guilty of this very thing in my book. I try to give a broader perspective on
the topic, because I believe that even though something doesn't work for ME
doesn't mean that it doesn't work!
So here's a short outline of each personality type. As you read, think
about which one you most closely resemble, and make it your goal to
become more like the ideal each day.
Lover Personalities
The Bad Boy (danger) Someone who's dangerous and thrilling to be
around.
Bad boys are everything from gangsters to bikers to some rock and roll
musicians. These guys are usually tough, dress tough, and act tough as
often as possible. They drink, smoke, get tattoos, and generally demonstrate
in every way possible that they're from the wrong side of the tracks, and
your mother would not approve.
Examples: Tommy Lee, Mickey Rourke, any guy on a Harley, and
Sammy The Bull.
Why do women love them? Danger Will Robinson! There is an addictive
emotional rush being around a guy that could literally do ANYTHING. A lot of
these guys wind up beating their model girlfriends and spending time in jail.
Later, the woman says "He made a mistake, and I love him..."
Amazing. These guys almost always control their women. Anyway, I
wouldn't recommend being the extreme version of this one. You can get a

tattoo and buy a Harley and act all bad, but it's really not making to you a
better person to become a criminal.
I have to mention that this personality type is the one that women are
most MAGNETICALLY attracted to. Again, this is because of the addictive
rush that comes from being around them.
The Adventurer (fun) Someone who's fun and exciting to be around.
The Adventurer is constantly looking for the next fun experience.
Adventurers love to go surfing, skiing, racing, bungee-jumping, and
skydiving. Think Indiana Jones and James Bond.
They are fearless. Instead of being bad to get thrills, they usually like to
do crazy things to get thrills. Their appeal is much the same as the Bad Boy,
except that these guys don't usually wind up beating their women. Women
like to be around them because they drive fast, go interesting places, and
generally have a sense of 'adventure' about everything they do.
They have the attitude of "What adventure is waiting around the next
corner" - even if they're just going out to dinner. They have a colorful way of
slightly exaggerating every story and emphasizing the adventurous points.
Adventurers are like Bad Boys in that they like fast toys and fast
women. Women are attracted to them because they are a kick to be around
- and they often have more than one woman at a time (and I mean this both
ways!) And women totally accept this from them. Women usually understand
on an unconscious level that this is the type of guy that loves more than one
woman.
They're also damn fun. I have a couple of Adventurer buddies, and
they're always talking about how much fun everything is, and the fun they're
going to have tonight and tomorrow. They have extreme optimism, which
women LOVE.
Again, Adventurers are usually in control in relationships, and can never
be tamed. A curious point: most of the Adventurers that I know cheat on
their girlfriends or spouses. Hugh Hefner is an 'Adventurer' personality.
The Seducer (sex) Someone who is sensual and sexy and makes her feel
sexy.

Seducers are all about women. They understand women completely. As
a matter of fact, I sometimes think that maybe they were women in past
lives or something.
I have to read, struggle, and work to understand women. Seducers
seem to have a natural way with them. To most men, a Seducer seems
bizarre, and even slightly homosexual. They do things that are pretty far
out.
Watch the movie 'Don Juan DeMarco' with Johnny Depp. This movie is
the epitome of the Seducer. Don Juan can only see the world through his
romantic perspective, which is magnetic to women. Seducers are usually
submissive, as they are constantly pleasing the woman, and paying careful
attention to her needs.
The flip side is that as soon as they have gotten what they want from a
woman (sex), they're gone. Sure, they may come back for romantic
evenings of sex, but they are not often around for the long term.
The Artist (Musician, Poet) (emotion) Someone who moves her emotions
and is enigmatic and complex.
Why is Barry White so famous for swooning the chicks?
Why do women love guys like Kurt Kobain and other equally twisted,
introverted guys?
I believe that the answer lies inside the psyche of women. Women like
to have challenges, and they like to help people. The Artist personality is
both complex and in need of help and understanding.
Most Artists see the world much differently than other people. They look
at tree and see a giant feather duster, or they see a color and can taste it. If
you think I'm kidding, I'm not. I've spent years studying psychology, and
there are some people that have their senses and perceptions combined and
linked in unusual ways.
Women can usually understand the Artist's expressions better than
other men can. And they are usually very attracted to these personalities for
this very reason. The Artist needs someone to understand them, and there's
always a woman who needs someone to be understood.
Most Artists are not in control of the woman in their lives, because
they're not in control of THEMSELVES. They are usually disorganized, and
completely unaware of time, etc. If you want to become an Artist, also work

on the other areas of your life to stay in balance. Unfortunately, most Artists
don't have very healthy personalities.
Provider Personalities
The Successful Guy (means) Someone who provides a great lifestyle
and stability.
The successful guy brings money and stability to the table. Most women
are trying to find one of these guys to marry them.
The way to demonstrate that you're a Successful Guy is to drive a nice
car, live in a nice house, take her to nice dinners, and buy her gifts. Any
Doctor, Lawyer or Stock Broker fits this ideal.
Usually, these guys are dominant in the relationship. They've worked
hard to climb the ladder of success, and they use these leadership skills in
their relationship (and even parenting).
Women love them because they represent the ultimate goal of most
women: Stability. Most wives would rather have a stable $3,000.00 a
month income than have an unpredictable income of $50,000.00 a year -
spread out over 12 months with no guarantee of when in the year they'll get
it.
So Mr. Successful Guy gives them that 'Security Blanket.' I personally
think that Successful Guys are the ones who most likely use prostitutes the
most in America. This is just a guess, but my experience tells me that it's
probably accurate.
If you're successful, then this one is easy. If you're not, then you might
want to think about learning some marketable skills.
Here's a warning: Most men try to act like they're successful when they
first meet a woman. They show off by buying drinks or dinner, etc. This
immediately causes a woman to go into the mode of 'hold off on the sex.'
The other problem is that it's expensive.
Buy yourself a copy of 'The Rules' - the one that's written for women.
This is they type of guy that they're teaching women to trap. So beware.
Daddy (control) Someone who tells her what to do and controls her.

This is another interesting personality type. Some women are very
attracted to controlling men who treat them like little girls. Some women
take this to an extreme and date men much older than them.
I don't know if this is an accurate observation, but a lot of really
attractive, powerful women are attracted to men who control them and treat
them like little girls.
My opinion is that some women get their way all the time from men,
and they don't like it. They resent men who bow down to them, and have no
respect for them. There's a certain sexual energy that comes from being
controlled, and a lot of powerful women are attracted to it.
If you're interested in learning more about this mindset, read the book
'Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns' by Philip Miller. The first 50 or 60
pages are a very interesting discussion of dominance and submission.
Although I don't like to act like a woman's Daddy, I've found that it's very
useful to know how to spot a woman that's testing me - and how to deal
with it.
Daddy personalities are usually attracted to the world of S&M etc. If
you're naturally controlling, then this might be your angle. But be careful.
This is all well and good for a personality, but some Daddy types like to turn
in to Stalkers. If you act like a nut, someone is going to put you in jail
(where you should be).
The Regular Guy (loyalty) Someone who is down to earth, loyal and
stable.
The Regular Guys in the world don't get enough credit in my opinion.
Unfortunately, they also don't get enough women... ha. The fact is, most
Regular Guys wind up in long term relationships with women that are like
them - regular.
Regular guys work hard, mow the lawn and watch a lot of TV. They may
start out being fun and adventurous when they're younger, but they usually
settle into a more boring life because they believe that they can do no better
for themselves - or that it's not worth the effort.
I'm sure you know a bunch of regular guys. They're married with 2.3
kids and a rectangular 3 bedroom, 2 bath house in a subdivision.
Regular Guys may start out in control of a relationship, but in almost
EVERY case I've seen, the woman eventually takes control. The women
starts nagging, telling him what to do, etc.

If you're a Regular Guy, or would like to become one, I'd recommend
adding a little bit of Adventurer and Seducer to the mix. Dress a little better.
Make yourself more fun and interesting, and you'll be able to attract more
interesting women. My book Double Your Dating will help you become FAR
more interesting to women. The chapter on how to be Cocky and Funny will
be Gold to you.
Ass Kissing Guy (her boy) Someone who gives her whatever she wants.
Ass Kissing Guy is my favorite! Ass Kissing Guy follows his woman
around saying "OK honey, whatever you want" and "I'm sorry" and "What's
wrong sweetie?"
Ass Kissing Guy likes to use submissive body language, not look people
in the eye, and act passive aggressive. Ass Kissing Guy actually should be
called Ass Kissing Girly-Man, because he acts kind of like a girl.
Women who are dominant and controlling like to have an Ass Kissing
Guy around as a boyfriend for awhile - sometimes they even marry them.
But it's not a happy life, and I wouldn't recommend it.
If you're an Ass Kissing Guy, then I'd recommend that you spend more
time reading Double Your Dating, and add some Adventurer and Daddy to
your type. It will make your life more enjoyable in the long run.
Now, let me ask you a quesion:
Which one most closely described you? Or which one would you like to
work towards? The interesting benefit of each of these is that the more you
embody the Personality Type, the more interesting you usually become.
Change requires you to learn and improve.
One decision you have to make is "What do you want in a woman?"
You also have to ask yourself whether you're looking for a long-term
relationship or a short one. This is IMPORTANT. If you start taking women to
dinner, buying them gifts, and calling them days in advance to ask them out
on dates you're going to trigger them to respond to you as a Provider. They
will hold back sex, and expect you to demonstrate your ability to provide.
On the other hand, I've found that if you start out as a Lover
Personality, you can always choose to switch later on. So choose wisely.
There's more on this topic in my book Double Your Dating, which you
must read in order to understand this completely.

Now here's a list of UN-successful Personality Types. I'm not trying to
pick on anyone here, but I've dated and interviewed a LOT of women. These
are the types that GENERALLY turn women off.
Unsuccessful Archetypes:
? Hippie (Careless about grooming and clothing)
? Nerd (Not socially educated or charming)
? Redneck ('nuff said)
? Prejudice, Ignorant and Proud (again, speaks for itself)
? Insecure and Needy (Clingy and smothering physically and emotionally)
? Afraid man (Won't take risks in life and go for it)
? Mommy's boy (Needs mom's approval for everything, won't grow up)
? Argument man (Argues with everything all the time)
? Unattractive on purpose (This can work if you like women who are the
same)
I'd like you to take a moment and think about three guys that you know
who are successful with women, and three that aren't.
Chances are that the three that are successful will be found in the
'Successful Personality Types' section, and the others won't. There may be
one or two that don't fit the 'Successful' molds, but they're probably with
women who are not exactly the most desirable in the world. I'm not trying to
be mean here, I'm trying to help you see how things work.
So take some time and think about who you've been up until now, the
new perspective that you have, and how you're going to be different in the
future. Write down three things you can start doing RIGHT NOW to become
more like the Personality type that you'd like to be come. Then get to work
and stick with it!
If you have any suggestions about what you've just read, please email
me at daviddeangelo@doubleyourdating.com to let me know.
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Double Your Dating
What Every Man Should Know
About How To Be
Successful With Women
By David DeAngelo
©2001, All Rights Reserved.
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Introduction
It's taken me a long time to figure out all of the things that you're
about learn. I've spent years on this.
This book is meant to be used like an encyclopedia. It's meant to
be a REFERENCE, not a novel.
The best way to use it is to read it and find all of the parts that you
like and all of the ideas, skills and techniques that you would like to
work on and improve. Then take those sections and either write them
down or print them so you can review them and practice.
Success with women isn't like success with learning to use a light
switch.
Success with women is more like success with learning to play a
musical instrument. It takes practice. At first none of it makes any
sense. Sometimes it seems as though all of your practice isn't making
a difference.
But if you keep at it, eventually you'll be playing songs. And then
you'll be writing songs. Next thing you know, you've become a master.
So take this book and use it as a workbook. Come back to it often.
Reread the parts that you want to learn and integrate. And most
importantly, DON'T STOP READING UNTIL YOU'RE DOING IT.
Many people make the mistake of reading a book, and then saying
"I know that stuff" before they've mastered the information in their
experience.
Don't make this mistake yourself.
Keep reading and practicing and using it until you HAVE IT DOWN.
And do me a favor. Email me with your ideas, comments, and
complaints. I want to know what you think. You can email me at
daviddeangelo@doubleyourdating.com.
Now let's have some fun!
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The Bad Guy Notice:
This book is copyright 2001, with all rights reserved. It is illegal to
copy, distribute, or create derivative works from this book in whole or
in part, or to contribute to the copying, distribution, or creating of
derivative works of this book. When you purchased this book, you
agreed to the statement on the bottom of the homepage of my
website that stated:
"©2001, All Rights Reserved. If you try to copy, steal, or distribute all or any
part of my book or this web page without permission, I will have my attorney
contact you and make you wish that you'd never had such a stupid idea in your
life. Count on it. By purchasing this book, you agree to the following: You
understand that the information contained on this page and in this book is an
opinion, and it should be used for personal entertainment purposes only. You are
responsible for your own behavior, and none of this book is to be considered
legal or personal advice."
And I expect you to abide by these rules. I regularly and actively
search the internet for people who violate my copyrights.
Now that we're finished with the bad guy notice, let's learn about
how to be successful with women...
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Part 1: How To Think About Success With Women ..... 7
Chapter 1: Women Don't Make Sense ...................................... 8
Where Our Desires Come From .......................................................................9
The First Shift In Thinking ............................................................................ 10
It's A Game To Them................................................................................... 12
Why Women Are Attracted To Things Like Fame, Money And Power..................... 12
The Dark Side Of Beauty.............................................................................. 13
The Underlying Motives................................................................................ 16
Chapter 2: How I Discovered What Works With Women ............. 17
It's OK To Be A Man .................................................................................... 17
My Story ................................................................................................... 20
Do As Much As You Can To Improve............................................................... 22
Self Image, Self Talk, And Other Self Stuff ...................................................... 24
The Attitude............................................................................................... 24
It All Comes Down To Your Skills. .................................................................. 26
Internal States ........................................................................................... 29
Find Others................................................................................................ 29
What Outcome Are You Looking For?.............................................................. 30
Part 2: How To Communicate With Women ............31
Chapter 3: How To Develop A Personality That Is Irresistible
To Women ...................................................................... 32
Be Different In An Attractive Way .................................................................. 32
Your Enemy Is Insecurity and Neediness......................................................... 32
Thinking In Time Frames.............................................................................. 34
How Men Usually Find Women....................................................................... 35
The Six Things That Attract Women ............................................................... 36
Personality Traits That Attract Women............................................................ 37
Chapter 4: How To Use Communication And Humor To Attract
Women .......................................................................... 41
How Women Test Men And Why .................................................................... 41
The Very Attractive Women Are Approached All The Time .................................. 45
More On My Way Of Looking At Things ........................................................... 46
On Being A Man.......................................................................................... 48
How To Tease (How To Speak Woman)........................................................... 49
Humor ...................................................................................................... 52
How To Be Funny, The One Page Course......................................................... 54
Let's Be Friends.......................................................................................... 55
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More Nuggets of Gold .................................................................................. 56
On Predictability ......................................................................................... 58
On Testing................................................................................................. 60
Voice Tone ................................................................................................ 60
On Persistence: .......................................................................................... 61
How To Answer Any Question That You Don't Want To Answer............................ 62
Chapter 5: On Looks and Body Language................................ 64
Body Language Basics ................................................................................. 64
Signs That A Woman Is Interested................................................................. 66
On Cuddling............................................................................................... 67
Part 3: Exactly What, When, And How ..................69
Chapter 6: The Basics of Style and Class, Plus More On How To
Fascinate Women ............................................................. 70
Be Prepared! Expect.................................................................................... 70
Learn To Cook A Few Good Meals .................................................................. 70
Learn A Few Cold Reading Methods................................................................ 71
Get A Few Good Props ................................................................................. 72
Chivalry .................................................................................................... 72
Chapter 7: Where And How To Meet Women........................... 74
Where To Meet Women................................................................................ 74
How To Meet Women................................................................................... 76
The Initial Approach .................................................................................... 76
Meeting Women Online ................................................................................ 78
Getting Them Interested In You .................................................................... 79
Getting Phone Numbers And Email Addresses .................................................. 80
How To Get The First Meeting ....................................................................... 82
Two Ways Women Think About Men And How You Control This ........................... 82
When You Meet .......................................................................................... 84
Places To Go .............................................................................................. 85
Chapter 8: Getting Physical ................................................ 87
How To Take The Next Step.......................................................................... 87
Chapter 9: Keeping Her Attracted To You, Or "How To Have a
Long Term Relationship" .................................................... 89
The Beginning of the End, Or the End of the Beginning...................................... 89
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Part 1: How To Think
About Success With
Women
In this section, I'm going to teach some interesting things about
how women think, and how I've used this information to make myself
more successful with them.
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Chapter 1: Women Don't Make Sense
I'm going to start off this whole shebang by giving you my take on
women in general.
I know, I know. Every woman is a unique creature. But women
have more commonalties than they have differences. So let's start
with what I think they have in common, then we'll move on to
differences (the ideas that I'm about to share with you here are from
my own research, testing in the real world and analysis).
For most men, a woman is like a Chinese puzzle inside of a brain
twister.
Much of their behavior makes no sense at all (to men).
If there's one thing that I'm clear about, it's that most women
THINK differently than most men and most women want different
things than most men.
This is hard for many men to grasp or understand, but it's true.
And the sooner you get a handle on what's going on here, the sooner
you'll be more successful with women.
Let's start by comparing what men and women are interested in.
Have you ever stopped to think about what entertains women as a
group compared to what entertains men as a group? Women buy
Cosmopolitan magazine, watch soap operas, and read romance novels.
Men buy Playboy, watch sports, and read the paper.
Hey, wait a minute here! What's in those Cosmos, soaps, and
romance novels? And why are women so attracted to them?
And why is it that when men try to watch a soap opera or read a
romance novel all they can say is "I don't get it..."?
I'll tell you why. It's because women's brains are wired differently
from men's brains. That's why.
And by telling you about what attracts women's attention, I've also
given you a clue about how to attract them to YOU.
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Where Our Desires Come From
After spending the last ten years or so studying psychology and
behavior, I've come to the opinion that MOST of our desires, drives,
preferences, strengths, weaknesses, behaviors and personality traits
are determined by our DNA and some by our social conditioning. I'm
talking about both men and women here.
Even differences like whether a person prefers adventure or couch
riding are largely a matter of programming from birth (If you really
don't want to agree with me on this one, read some books on the
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator or try the book Who Am I?)
In any event, HOWEVER they got to be interested in these common
things, most women have a few main interests, needs, desires, or
whatever you want to call them when it comes to men, relationships,
and romance.
Have you ever read the personals? Have you ever noticed how
many women say things like "princess looking for prince", "friends
first" and "looking for my soul-mate"? Have you ever noticed how
almost NO men ever say these things?
What's going on?
Have you ever listened to a group of women talking about men?
Ever notice how they speak largely in some kind of code language and
constantly make a big deal out of tiny details that seem totally
irrelevant?
Have you ever noticed, on the other hand, how men are direct with
each other and have no interest in bickering over small things?
What's going on?
Have you ever noticed how attracted to drama most women are?
Here's my take on this whole subject: Women are playing out a
role that hasn't changed for thousands (millions?) of years. These days
the language and clothing are different. But it's the same that it's
always been.
There are different parts of human brains that create drives and
desires for different things. Often, these drives conflict with each
other.
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For instance, a woman might want a strong man in her life, but she
might also want a feeling of independence. She might want to have
attention, but she might also want to be seen as above needing
attention. (Men have these types of conflicts as well, only in different
areas)
So, for example, I hear a lot of men saying things like "I hate all
the drama that women create. Why do they create this stuff?"
My answer: Drama accomplishes a lot of things at once. It gets
attention, it sends emotions through the body (emotions are highly
addictive chemicals), it's a way to be self righteous, it's often fun, it's
interesting and prevents boredom, it gives things meaning... and on
and on. There are a lot of good reasons for drama. But most men can't
understand them because drama fulfills needs that MOST MEN DON'T
HAVE.
It's like women saying "I hate it when all a guy can talk about is
sports." What needs to sports fulfill for men? Competition, adrenaline,
power, domination... all the typical guy stuff. Incidentally, stuff that
fulfills needs that most women just plain don't have.
The First Shift In Thinking
So let's start off with this shift in thinking: Think about what the
woman that you're interested needs and wants, and don't assume that
these are the same things that YOU need and want.
And don't assume that what women want is going to make any
sense at all to you, because it probably won't. This was a big one for
me personally to get. Almost none of what I do to be successful with
women makes any sense to me logically, because I'm not a woman.
But now that I see how what I do works over and over and over again,
I realize that it doesn't matter what makes sense.
All that matters is WHAT WORKS.
Let's get a little deeper into the female heart and mind.
Females select males most of the time in nature... and in modern
human courtship. And even if the man selects the woman, many if not
most women still harbor the secret fantasy that they're 'letting him do
it' etc.
Sooooooo.... It's good to address this issue and point out when
talking to women (even if you hint at it and talk about past
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experiences to make the point) that you are the selector and not the
selectee. This kind of thing is very very very powerful, as it does one
of my favorite things: It points out something to the woman that she's
most likely NEVER HEARD FROM A MAN IN HER ENTIFE LIFE. I
specialize in saying things that women have never heard. I also like to
say things that she's never heard that MAKE ME DIFFERENT IN A
DESIRABLE WAY.
I even say to women "I'm about to tell you something (or
something about you) that no one has ever told you..." This really gets
a woman on the edge of her seat and puts her into an instant state of
attention (when done in a context that makes sense). And if the thing
you tell them is profound enough, they'll begin to see you and a sort of
super psychic powerhouse (women are fascinated by these kinds of
things).
My personal view is that if you help people to have profound
realizations, they'll see you as a guru rather than seeing the
information or themselves as powerful. It doesn't matter where the
info came from, as long as it's something that the person has never
really thought about in that way (that's also profound to her).
One good example is to say to a hot woman who's acting arrogant
"You don't have me fooled for a minute, dear."
When she say's "What are you talking about?" you say "Well, I
know that most men fall for this 'I'm beautiful and aloof and I get my
way' part of your personality... but I know something that none of
them know... that there's really another side of you. A side that none
of THEM get to see. I'll bet you a dollar right now that I know
something about you that no one who's only known you for 5 minutes
has EVER known... ... You may act tough, but
you're actually EXTREMELY sensitive on the inside. If someone makes
a negative comment to you, you might act like it doesn't bother you...
but you'll think about it all the way home... I know that secretly you're
as sensitive as a little girl... it's just that most people never get to
meet that part of you..."
This messes up a cold woman soooo hard that you have to be
ready for instant personality meltdown and a completely different
person to come out of her. At this point, it's often easy to start talking
about the whole pick up scene and how women play men, etc. to let
her know you're an insider and not falling for her game. If you drop
two or three more profound comments during this time, you'll have a
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woman that won't leave you alone (but keep acting like you want to be
left alone so she'll stay after you!). Nice.
It's A Game To Them
Women often view men picking up on them as a sort of game.
They talk about it with each other, they have standard lines that they
learn when you ask for their number - "Why don't you give me YOUR
number instead and I can call you...?" and so on.
I know that some, maybe even most women go out on weekends
with the mindset of "I'm never going to meet Mr. Right at a club, but it
boosts my ego to have men paying attention to me by the dozens, and
I like to have free drinks... and I love to dance with my girlfriends and
be a tease... and I love the power of shooting men down while
pretending to be annoyed by it... etc."
Why Women Are Attracted To Things Like Fame, Money And
Power
I recently answered the question "What is it about fame and
money and power that attracts women?" for someone. I say that
women are attracted to men that are famous, rich, powerful for a
REASON.
My opinion is that they believe on a genetically and socially
programmed, unconscious level that these men are more intelligent,
more fun, more interesting, more able to give them the lifestyle - and
MOST IMPORTANTLY- give them the FEELINGS that they want. In his
book 'Influence' Robert Cialdini talks about a psychological principle
called the 'Halo Effect.' In a nutshell, humans naturally assume that
attractive and powerful people are smarter and more trustworthy than
average people.
A woman desires a man that fits into her self image fantasies that
have been forming since she was very young. And thanks to Disney
these fantasies were imbedded even further than her genetic wiring
ever intended.
Overall, the answer is to realize that rich, powerful, famous guys
have the advantage at the beginning from their FAMILIARITY and
ASSUMED, PROJECTED positive traits. But if you can learn to get a
woman's attention and then give her the FEELINGS that she's always
wanted, she'll treat you like you're famous, rich, and powerful as well.
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A tall, handsome man, or a famous rich man 'pushes a button' and
triggers certain feelings inside of a woman. If you're not rich, famous,
tall and/or super attractive, you have to learn to 'install the button' so
that when they see you, then have those feelings. The good news is
that you can do this with most women, whereas you cannot with most
men.
While women are interested in looks to some degree, they are
MORE interested in how you make them feel. Even if you don't
understand this, you have to believe it and start acting as though it's
true. You must behave as if you confidently believe that you are the
best thing for a woman, and that you are going to make her feel
wonderful inside.
Women can pick up this particular belief, and they respond to it.
Ask yourself:
"How would I walk if I believed that I could make any woman feel
great inside?
"How would I talk if I believed that I could make any woman feel
great inside?"
"What would the expression be on my face if I believed that I could
make any woman feel great inside?"
"How would I act differently if I were the kind of man that women
dreamed about?"
Then start doing these things. When you're talking to a woman,
imagine how good you're going to make her feel. Fake it till you make
it. Just do it. Women will notice.
The Dark Side Of Beauty
Underneath all of this, most of these powerful women have a
'shadow' or dark side.
This dark side is secretly wanting a man that is in control of
himself, his reality, and them.
But they'd never admit it - often not even to themselves.
But their unconscious knows and recognizes this as something that
they want. They also hold a kind of inner CONTEMPT for the weak
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people (especially men) who give them everything they want, as is
evidenced by the "Oh, he's just a guy I use to buy me things and "He's
my 'Boytoy'" kind of comments that women often make to their
girlfriends.
On the topic of men giving gifts to women and buying them things:
Many women will take what is available to them (even if they have to
do a little manipulation for it), but they will ultimately resent and
disrespect a man that gives too much to them.
As a matter of fact, to most hot women THEIR REALITY is that men
kiss up to them and that men will give them what they ask for or
demand (worst case, they have to get upset or act bitchy to get their
way). AGAIN, THIS IS THEIR REALITY. Men that don't fit this are often
just tuned out as if they didn't exist in order to keep this reality as
pure as possible for them. (Also, I think that many women harbor a
contempt for their beauty. At a shadow level, they are kept from living
a real life and being closer to the real world simply because fewer and
fewer people can relate to them in proportion to how 'beautiful' they
are and make themselves. Addressing this topic when speaking to
women is VERY powerful. More later.)
Men are often behaving like ass kissers because they are afraid
that a woman might get upset and leave, and the fact is that by acting
this way, a woman is MORE likely to leave. It's one of those paradoxes
that's a self fulfilling prophesy. A woman whines, man say's "Oh, no...
I need to kiss her ass or she might leave. Even though she's being
ridiculous, I have to go along with it..."
This is bad for her, for you, and for the relationship between you.
Learn to never let a woman act like a Brat without you calling her on it
(AND IN A COOL, ALMOST INDIFFERENT WAY!)
This is very counter intuitive, but again, we're dealing with female
human behavior, which has roots and drives that are complex and
often difficult to trace.
The solution is to NOT kiss ass or do things for them like everyone
else. Be different. Expect them to pull their own weight, call them on
all of their issues and messed up behaviors just like you would a guy
friend or family member (use the same "you're my friend and I'm
saying this for your benefit" tone that you'd use with a friend) tease
and make fun of their insecurities, reframe other men who kiss their
ass, and put beauty in a new light (as a curse etc. how she can never
have anyone see her for who she truly is, and how every man she
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knows would sleep with her in a minute, and how it often leads to less
inner fulfillment).
The fact is that women will sleep with rich men who kiss their
asses and model-handsome guys who don't treat them well to satisfy
their PHYSICAL drives.
But overall, an average looking man that takes good care of
himself and makes enough money to live comfortably who is cocky,
direct, challenging, confident, funny, and in control - one who
challenges her constantly and never kisses her ass EVER - will be FAR
more fulfilling to a beautiful woman than the other types.
This difference is not only interesting to her, it's challenging as well
(something she doesn't experience often). A man that does such will
not only be able to win her body - but also her interest and fascination
- as well as keeping her messed up behaviors more in check and
staying in control of the situation.
***Note: If any of this sounds too far out for you, I recommend
that you go out to a mall and find yourself a few really beautiful
women. Then ask them to read the last few pages of this book and to
tell you if this is accurate material. If you're a doubter, you won't
believe the responses you'll get. I've asked many beautiful women
about these ideas, and almost EVERY ONE OF THEM has told me that
this thinking is accurate.
You'll also notice out in the real world that some fortunate men
have either looks, fame, personality, or whatever that causes women
to naturally act openly and receptively to them.
If you're one of these men, then congrats to you!
If you're not one of these men (I'm not, so I understand what it's
like) then you have to LEARN how to get inside of a woman's mind and
heart and CAUSE them to start acting this way toward you. It may
take a few minutes of conversation, or even up to an hour or so... but
if you learn the skills that I'm going to teach you, you can learn how to
cause women to act this way toward you, too.
Remember, attraction has different roads that lead to it. Some are
shortcuts, and some take a little longer, are more challenging, and
thus take some skill. But there is a structure to the process, and if you
learn that structure, you will be more successful.
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The Underlying Motives
I think that it's important to look at the differences between men
and women from an objective perspective and to not take things
personally.
Remember that just about every thought and behavior that a
woman has, no matter how little sense it may make to you, has some
positive intention behind it. Drama is often to get attention. Jealousy is
often a way of protecting a relationship. Games are often used to
make sure that a man is serious and willing to invest energy.
So as you work to become more successful with women, remember
to not take things personally. Don't get discouraged if you encounter
games, drama and things that you don't understand. It's all part of the
game.
I believe that underneath it all, men are usually trying to find
women who will give them sex, and women are usually trying to find
men who will give them loyalty and commitment. This has evolved
over many millions of years, and these goals contain an obvious
conflict of interest.
So just realize this, and as you learn, remember to take this into
consideration.
And, of course, don't take any of it personally. Men have been
dealing with all these same issues for a long, long time.
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Chapter 2: How I Discovered What Works With
Women
It's OK To Be A Man
After many years of study, research and trying different things,
I've now realized that there is a conspiracy against men being
successful with women.
It's very real, and it's very pervasive in our culture.
Let me explain.
Most men that I know have some kind of 'feeling' that it's wrong in
some way to sleep with more than one woman at a time (I'm not even
referring to a Menage A Trios, either. I'm talking about plain old run-
of-the-mill dating of a couple of women at a time here).
But most women that I know have more than just a 'feeling' about
this. Most women are outspoken and very forward about the idea that
it's WRONG for most men to date and sleep with more than one
woman.
You can see it in their faces and hear it in their voices when they
talk about it.
If you know what I'm talking about, give me a silent nod here.
What I've discovered by doing my homework is that the moral idea
of monogamy (having only one partner at a time) has been formalized,
passed down, and force-fed to us culturally by rulers, religions and
women for thousands of years.
I don't mean to get too far out here, but I feel that understanding
where these beliefs came from and how they are promoted will liberate
many readers.
Onward.
Anywhere from hundreds to thousands of years ago, rulers of lands
kept large harems of women. These harems were guarded carefully to
prevent any males except the rulers from having access to these
women. The penalty for sleeping with one of the ruler's women could
be, in an extreme case, your own death plus the deaths of everyone in
your family and village (Back then there were bigger risks involved!).
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These rulers kept so many women not just for the sexual variety
that it provided them, but more for the reproductive power that it gave
them. These rulers often had detailed records kept so they could
copulate with only the most fertile women so as to maximize the
woman's chances of pregnancy and passing on their own genes.
So what do you think these rulers did to protect their harems?
Right! They passed laws (that they were exempt from) to promote
monogamy.
In these times there was a great shortage of women, so these laws
would discourage married men (those lucky enough to find a woman)
from seeking sex outside of their marriage, and therefore protect the
ruler's harem further.
Next, we have the church.
Many religions prohibit sex, make sex 'wrong,' give it some name
with negative connotation like 'fornication,' or in one way or another
discourage it.
I once heard a wise man say "Religions take everything that your
DNA naturally wants to do to survive and pro-create and makes it
wrong." Why? Well, if you're busy fighting your internal drives, and
you see God as the only way to cleanse yourself of these 'bad'
thoughts, then you are a much better SHEEP.
If you want to get people to follow you, first confuse them, then
convince them that you know the way to get them out of their
confused state. Easy.
Finally, we have women. This is the interesting one.
If you look at it from an 'economic' standpoint, it doesn't benefit
women at all to have their man running around having sex with other
women. She can only be pregnant with one child at a time, and she
can only raise a limited number at a time, so having a man that's out
spreading his seed is BAD BAD BAD for business for her. When you're
out spreading seed, you can't be working or home helping. Even
worse, you might have other kids with other women which will divide
your attention and income further. (By the way, I'm not saying that
there's anything wrong with women's perspectives. I'm just saying
that if you look at it from their point of view, there's not a lot of
benefit to having a man that likes to sleep with a lot of women.)
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So anything that promotes monogamy, like religion, is seen as
'right' to many women, as it goes along with what they know and feel
is right.
Now let's talk about men.
My research leads me to believe that men are 'naturally' inclined to
have one main woman that they are devoted to, but that they like to
sleep with other women as opportunity arises. You can believe what
you want, but do yourself a favor and read Matt Ridley's book "The
Red Queen" before you start speculating.
Think about it. There are major advantages to men (or at least to
their genes) to sleep with many women.
First, it doesn't take a lot of energy, and there's not very much risk
involved (I realize that there is risk of disease, etc. but for the moment
think about the fact that a man could probably father dozens of
children before a disease would take him out, making the trade off,
genetically speaking, a no brainer).
I personally believe that men are hard wired to look for sexual
opportunities and seek out sexual variety. (Let me also add that just
because you're hard wired to like sweet foods doesn't mean that you
should eat only sweet foods. This will lead you to sickness and
eventually can lead to disease and death.)
With this in mind, I'd like you to ask yourself:
What are my beliefs about monogamy?
Where did they come from?
Do I like my beliefs?
Do my beliefs conflict with my inner drives?
Would I like to change what I believe based on this new
information?
In any event, from now forward, don't let anyone or anything make
you feel bad because of your NATURAL desires and attraction to
women. (I'm, of course, talking about reasonable desires and
attractions. If you like to think about hurting women, underage
women, etc. then do yourself a favor and get some help.)
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But if you're like me and you were given a set of ideas about
women that you are now realizing to be less than useful, then move on
and start thinking about the subject differently.
My perspective is that sleeping with different women breaks no
'law of the universe,' and it's not an ethical dilemma for me. Any
objections that are in existence were created mostly to control, not to
liberate. My perspective is also that it's important to be honest with
people about your views. And yes, this means talking to women about
them. In my life, I've mostly had long term girlfriends. And if I tell a
woman that I'm going to be faithful, then I am.
But if I'm single, then I see nothing wrong with dating as many
women as I want. (Keep in mind that there are some crazy viruses,
diseases and other scary bugs that want to jump on your wiener. So
use good judgement.)
I've found that if you explain the topic like I just have to a woman,
you'll often show her a perspective that she's never even thought of.
My experience is that women actually LOVE to hear a man talking this
way. It's refreshing to women to hear a man being open about this
controversial topic rather than hiding his ideas. It's important to
remember what I said above: "It's OK To Be A Man."
If you are who you are and make no apologies for yourself, you will
be taken seriously. But if you approach the topic cautiously and act
like you're trying to see if she's OK with your views, you'll be seen as
weak and insecure.
I've found that most women will accept you as you are. But if you
try to act like someone that you're not, then you're found out, you will
be treated with disrespect and ex-communicated.
My Story
I made the decision a few years ago that I needed to get the area
of my life `handled' called `dealing with women.' So I made a decision
and a commitment to myself and my best friend that I would do
whatever it took to learn and `figure this out.' (Read Think and Grow
Rich by Napoleon Hill Chapter #1 for more on this mindset).
Background: The girlfriends that I had in the past were mostly
from luck, now that I reflect on it. They were there, and I felt lucky to
have the opportunity to get them to be my girlfriend.
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But I never knew how to approach women that I didn't know, and I
could sit in a bar for three hours making eye contact with a woman,
and never have the nerve to go talk to her. Right now I'm just turning
30, I'm about 5'10 160 pounds. I think I'm reasonably good looking,
but I've never been the kind of guy that women just walk up and
approach. (I say this to give you frame of reference in relationship to
the comments in this newsletter relating to looks, etc.) I've made
myself more attractive by paying attention, learning, and using what
works.
When I made the decision to get this part of my life handled, I
decided that instead of trying to start with an angle (working at a strip
club, becoming famous for something, etc.) that I would like to learn
in a way that gave me power to act on just my personality and
presentation - to make this part of who I was rather than a 'trick.'
I have a rule of thumb in life that I use... it takes about 2-4 years
just to get 'good' at something. And I mean JUST TO GET GOOD. Think
martial arts, playing an instrument... anything. (Read the first chapter
of "Mastery" by Leonard for more wisdom on this topic)
Sure, you can have some success and fun while learning, but
experience has shown me that to really 'get' something, and to be able
to use it in many contexts successfully, you need to apply yourself for
2-4 years.
THEN, I think it takes another 2-4 years to become a 'master' of
whatever you're doing.
At the 10+ year level is usually where the Genius level really kicks
in...
My point here is to say that I've been applying myself for a few
years now, and I am now to the point where I feel confident and in
control around women. I encourage you to make this a long term
commitment rather than just trying to get an instant cure. It will be
worth it in the long run.
If you're just plain lazy and want a shortcut, go ahead and try all of
them. But you'll most likely find, like most others do, that massive
success with this material takes practice, effort, and a commitment.
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Do As Much As You Can To Improve
First, I looked at myself. I asked "If I were the type of woman that
I would like to attract (I like super hot, very intelligent women), what
would make me want to be with a man?"
So I started reading, listening to tapes, going to seminars... you
name it. And I started to work on my `presentation' of myself.
I now think that it's important to get EVERY POSSIBLE thing going
for you that you can.
Here's my take: If you have messed up teeth, that doesn't prevent
you from dressing well (for instance), so don't let it.
Get a cool hair style (It's OK to ask a stylist what's cool and get
help on this one).
Buy nice clothes (don't tell me that you don't have the $$$. Get on
eBay, go to the Nordstrom Rack and look at the clearance items. I did
it to begin with). If you will do just a few key things, they won't
necessarily HELP you attract women, but they'll get rid of things that
are PREVENTING you from attracting women now that you DON'T
EVEN REALIZE.
Make no mistake about, if you're interested in ATTRACTIVE
women, you'd better realize right now that these things make a
difference. You don't have to work out ten times a week, but get your
body in at least OK shape. You don't have to have perfect teeth, but
make sure that they're clean and that your breath is great.
My personal view: If you're overweight, poorly groomed, etc. these
are all things that are within your control. You should get them
handled for YOURSELF. If you don't, then I'm going to assume that
you don't have very much self respect, in which case almost NOTHING
I tell you can help.
Women notice details that most men don't. They notice if your belt
and shoes match. They notice what kinds of foods you like to eat. They
notice all the details, then make assumptions about every other area
of your life based on these details.
So learn what nice shoes are, and how to keep them nice. Figure
out how colors and clothing go together and what is cool. It's worth it.
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I wasn't `cool' when I started, now I've learned how to be. Huge
difference. (Am I saying that you can't attract women if you wear
Nike's and have messed up hair? No. But remember the old saying: "A
blind pig can find an occasional truffle...")
Of course, don't overdo it.
I've tried the whole dressing well bit in the past, to the point of
looking like I'm trying too hard. Now I dress more 'casual nice.' I wear
a lot of Calvin Klein T-Shirts with black jeans and nice black shoes, etc.
This look, with a nice leather coat, works well in almost any situation.
This is a look that you can put together for a couple or few hundred
bucks (for several sets).
Here's my mindset: Keep improving all the time, even if it's the
SMALLEST DETAIL.
I noticed recently that at least once every time I go out, a girl will
ask me for a light. I always just said "I don't smoke" or "No" and left it
at that. Couple weeks ago I said "Ah-Ha" and I went to the lighter
store SPECIFICALLY to find the coolest lighter that anyone has
invented. I bought this torch lighter that make a huge flame. It looks
like a welding flame. So what do you think happened the first time I
went out with it? Right... got asked for a light... and got a 'wow'
reaction from her, which started a conversation.
A list of random things to improve:
· Keep all nails on your body short, clean and neat.
· The only place hair is good is on your head. Keep all other hair
trimmed, or have it removed. Nose and ear hairs are a no-no.
Bushy eyebrows are a no-no. Bushy pubic hairs are a no-no.
· Keep the teeth clean. Get a tongue scraper and use it a lot.
Floss. Use mouthwash. Fix any blatantly wrong teeth. Do it.
· Wash yourself three times when you shower. Dirt and body
odors don't come off with just a rinse. Wash your body
completely three times before you meet a woman.
· Use a good deodorant (I don't like anti-perspirants, as they
block your lymph system).
· Keep feet, shoes, and socks ultra clean. No foot odor is
permitted, period.
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· Get a good cologne. Try Dolce and Gabanna, Cerruti Image, or
Gaultier for men. And don't OVER-do it! No cologne is better
than a lot of cologne. One or two squirts, applied an hour before
you're going to be meeting women is best.
Remember, women notice the details and assume you handle
everything else the same way.
Self Image, Self Talk, And Other Self Stuff
The way I see it, underpinning all of these outer details and
techniques is your self-image, confidence, personality, and all of that
other intangible stuff that takes a bit to get under control. So let me
address how I got my personal self-image stuff together before I talk
about what I do specifically. (By the way, this is the most important
part of this book. All of my success has flowed from my attitude and
confidence - not the other way around. So if you read nothing else,
read this.)
The Attitude
When I first started out learning how to meet women, I remember
that I had a feeling inside like "I'm afraid to just walk up to a strange
woman and start talking."
I thought of all kinds of things that could go wrong.
"What if she has a boyfriend nearby who's jealous and he wants to
beat me up?"
"What if she says something that puts me down and makes me feel
bad?"
"What if she says something to someone else about me being a
loser because I tried to talk to her?"
All of these different ideas combined inside of me to give me a
general fear of meeting women.
I've since learned that none of my worst fears would come true
when meeting a new woman. I've met hundreds and hundreds of
women over the last few years - and none (NONE!) have reacted or
caused anything to happen that I couldn't handle in the moment.
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In the process I realized something very important: No tactic
works on every woman. Some women are not interested in meeting
someone right now.
Some women are lesbians and have no interest in men.
Some women are happily married or in a relationship and don't
want to meet someone new right now.
Some women are angry.
Some are cold.
My guess is that in a random group of 100 women, only about 30
of them might be open to meeting someone new right now (In a
romantic sense).
What this means is that 70 AREN'T interested in meeting someone
new.
And of the 30 who are interested in meeting someone new, maybe
only 15 are nice, friendly, happy people. Do you see where I'm going
with this?
If you want to be successful at meeting women, you have to
understand that many of the women that you talk to aren't interested.
Most people take things like this PERSONALLY. Instead of just moving
on to the next woman, they get all uptight and feel bad about it. I've
now learned a better way.
I also learned something else that helped me dramatically.
I learned that women are used to being approached, flirted with,
and picked up on in general by men. Even women who are what you
might call 'average' are approached by men on a pretty regular basis.
So when you're about to approach a woman, keep in mind that it's not
like you're going to try something that she's never heard of before and
shock her. You may not be totally comfortable yet just walking up to
any woman, but she'll be relatively comfortable with it.
And remember, if she's not interested, it's most likely that she's
not interested in anyone right now. Of course it's true that she might
not be interested in your 'type' or you may have acted in a way that
she didn't like, but the fact is that no matter what happens, you'll find
that it's no big deal.
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Just move on.
When I first started my journey, I realized that some of the
greatest memories that my friends and I have are when something
bad happened to one of us. Looking back, we usually laugh about
these things and make fun of each other and ourselves.
So I thought about it, and I realized that getting rejected really
harshly by a woman would actually be a funny thing. I imagined my
best friend and I saying "Hey, remember that time when I walked up
to that girl in the mall and said "Hi" and she told me that she doesn't
date me who look like Pee Wee Herman? Ha ha ha ha..."
Think of it this way: If you get shut down really hard, just tell a
couple of friends. They may not let you live it down, but at least you
can laugh about it! (And if you have friends that wouldn't help you
laugh about it, then you need some new friends)
Another part of the attitude equation that I realized is that different
women respond to different looks, personalities, etc. One woman
might only like men who dress in suits and ties, while another might
only like women who dress like bad boy rockers. Whatever style you
develop, DON'T CHANGE IT JUST BECAUSE SOME WOMEN DON'T LIKE
IT.
The price of big success is having some people dislike you. So once
you find a style that works for you, stick with it, and only change it
because YOU choose to!
It All Comes Down To Your Skills.
Having a problem? You need a new skill.
If you have some area of your life that isn't working for you, you
probably need a new SKILL.
I realized a few years ago that most people look at themselves and
say things like "There must be something WRONG WITH ME. I don't
know why. I just can't do it."
But, in fact, the problem wasn't something 'wrong' with them, the
problem was that they needed to learn a new skill or a set of skills.
Meeting women comes down to SKILLS. If you're having a problem
in a particular area, get new skills to deal with it. For instance, if you
have learned to meet women and get phone numbers, you might start
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having them flake out on you and not show up for planned meetings.
Solution: A new skill. You need to learn the skill of getting women to
meet you after making plans.
There are many parts to being successful with women, and they all
work together. You may already know some of them, you might learn
a few more from this book, but if you're missing a key (like how and
when to kiss a woman, for instance) you'll still keep running into
challenges.
Remember, if you're having a challenge, you need a skill. So
remind yourself of this, and come back to this book to get the
information, then practice until you have the SKILL!
I began by creating self image exercises based on NLP (Neuro
Linguistic Programming) and Timeline Therapy, and doing them all the
time. (Read Frogs Into Princes by Bandler and Grinder and The Secret
of Creating Your Future By Tad James for more info.)
Here's one exercise that's helped me tremendously:
First, I close my eyes and imagine a picture of the person that I
want to be. I imagine how I'll be dressed, the expression on my face,
how I'm standing... all the details. Then, I throw that picture up into
the air and have it start raining copies of it all around me for as far as
I can see... into my past and future... all around me. Exercises like
these sometimes sound silly, but they help direct your mind towards
the you that you want to become.
One area that I've studies extensively is what's commonly called
'internal dialogue' or 'self talk.' This is simply the way that you talk to
yourself inside your head. Most people are talking to themselves all
day long. But most people are talking NEGATIVELY to themselves
instead of talking POSITIVELY. Negative self-talk is, in my opinion,
one of the primary causes of low self-esteem, giving up, and a lack of
interest in even trying.
If you tell yourself something enough times, you'll begin to
BELIEVE it. This new belief will take on a mind of it's own, and start
creating it's own self talk.
Most people who have negative beliefs also have negative self-talk
that creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. If this is you, STOP RIGHT NOW.
I may be the first person that's ever pointed this out to you, so it
might sound a little strange. Or, I might be reminding you of
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something you already know. In any event, make a commitment to
yourself to start talking positively to yourself and to be encouraging
from now on. Put it on your calendar. Send yourself emails. Do
whatever you have to do so you remember to be nice to yourself when
you talk to yourself.
If you're one of those people that likes being negative, arguing
with everything, finding why things can never work for you, and why
everyone is wrong, then do me and you a favor and delete this book
from your hard drive, and email me to ask for a refund. You've made a
choice to be negative with yourself, and I'm not even interested in
helping you see a better way. People who have made the choice to be
negative about everything are usually playing out a drama that's
beyond what I'm interested in addressing, and probably beyond the
power of a book to change.
If, on the other hand, you are one of the people that is willing to
give new things a try, to say to yourself "I can do something if I
choose to" and "I can change if I really want to" then I think you will
be successful.
The key here is to begin taking a positive mindset and talking to
yourself in a positive way.
Here's an exercise for you to do: Take out a piece of paper and
write down all the negative thoughts you have about yourself, and all
the negative things you say to yourself, and all the areas where a
'positive' outlook would help you. Then, start writing down positive
things you can say to yourself instead, and start saying them. Keep
working on this until you stop saying negative things to yourself. This
could take you years, like it did for me. But it's worth it, trust me. This
one process will improve all areas of your life, so use it everywhere.
It's also important to make mental pictures and rehearse the
success that you'd like to have. As you're going to sleep, make mental
movies of yourself being successful in different kinds of situations and
with different types of women. Mental rehearsal is the next best thing
to physically doing something. So do it as often as you can. If you will
make a mental movie of the ideal you doing the things that I'm going
to teach you, and rehearse in your mind every day, you will see
improvement and results. If you don't do this part, you'll be wondering
why you can't seem to get it right when you need it.
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Internal States
Finally, I'm going to address the idea of your 'states.' By 'state' I
mean the feeling that you have in your body.
Can you remember a time when you felt happy and excited?
Can you remember a time when you felt powerful and energetic?
If you can, then you can HAVE THESE FEELINGS ANY TIME YOU
WANT THEM. Most people don't use their memories to help them feel
good because they say "Well, that's not really how I'm feeling, I'm just
imagining it." Well, I have news for you: You're ALWAYS just
imagining it. You might as well imagine it at times when you need it
instead of having it happen on accident!
Here's how to use this:
Write down three states that you'd like to be able to put yourself
into anytime you'd like. Then, write down three times in your life when
you felt each of those states. Finally, close your eyes, and put yourself
into each of the three situations that made you feel the state that you
want, and do SOMETHING UNIQUE with your body as you're
remembering. For instance, if you'd like to feel powerful and confident,
while you're remembering times when you felt this way, breath out
quickly while puckering your lips. If you do this process of
remembering the states and breathing out quickly at the same time,
all you have to do in the future is close your eyes, breath out quickly
while remembering the feelings, and you'll have the states that you
want. It's like having a push button for feeling good on your body.
Next, you have to practice putting yourself into your three powerful
states when you're in different environments. So go different places,
and practice getting yourself into your states with distractions, etc.
This might take some doing, but once you have it mastered, you'll be
able to get yourself into a positive state when you're not feeling it to
begin with (Could this be useful when you're feeling shy or afraid to
meet someone? Maybe...)
I also started keeping a personal journal of everything that I was
learning and doing, so I could reflect on it.
Find Others
MOST IMPORTANTLY I found and started to hang around with guys
that WERE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN. This was the biggie. I owe
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much of my success to the guys who showed me in the real world
what they did. It wasn't the books and the people selling tapes and
seminars. It was the real world guys that were successful in the real
world. What I do now resembles nothing that I've really read in a book
or learned from an author.
So the BEST advice I can give you is to find about 5 guys in your
area that know what they're doing, and say "Hey, I really want to get
this part of my life handled... can I take you to dinner (no kissing) and
pick your brain man?" Be humble and cool, and you'll make some
friends. Like I said, find about 5 different guys so you can get different
perspectives and see how it all fits together.
By the way, go read the chapter in Think and Grow Rich about the
Mastermind as well. IF YOU DO NOTHING ELSE, DO THIS ONE THING.
IT WILL MAKE THE DIFFERENCE.
What Outcome Are You Looking For?
Most men that I talk to about this topic really can't explain the
EXACT outcome that they're looking for.
So let me ask you...
Are you looking for a one night stands?
Are you looking for a girlfriend?
Are you looking for a wife?
Are you looking to get this part of my life called 'confidence with
women' handled?
What is it that you'd like to do?
Once you choose an outcome for yourself, you can apply what
you're learning to that outcome. If you have no outcome, then you're
going to be like a ship in the ocean with no particular port as your
destination. With no target, there is a very small chance that you'll
ever be successful.
Take a moment and write down your goal as it relates to women.
Then think about that goal as you read the rest of this book.
The idea here is to give yourself a framework to work within and
that you have to plan. Failing to plan is planning to fail.
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Part 2: How To
Communicate With
Women
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Chapter 3: How To Develop A Personality That Is
Irresistible To Women
In my experience, it's far better to ATTRACT a woman than to
CHASE a woman.
If a woman is ATTRACTED to you, half the game is over.
In sales, it's much easier to sell your product to someone who's
called you and said "Can you help me?" than to try to sell to people
who you've called cold.
Here's my premise: Women are attracted to men for certain
reasons and they go through a specific sequence internally when they
are attracted to a man - there is a system, a sequence, a code if you
will. And once you know what it is, you can develop a method to
create this sequence more often. You can use this fact that there is a
'genetic mating sequence' to help you.
Be Different In An Attractive Way
By studying marketing and sales, I've learned that humans are
attracted to things that are unique. They are also attracted to things
that are superior. So I have a phrase that I use: "Different in a
preferential way." In the mating game, it pays to be different in an
ATTRACTIVE way.
What I'm about to share with you is a group of ingredients. These
are the different ingredients that women are attracted to. It's up to
you to take what you have, and to use this list to augment your
personality in such a way that it becomes attractive to the type of
women that you're interested in. The key is to be different in an
attractive way.
But make sure that you're not too different! If you get too carried
away with this, you'll be outside of the realm of 'normal' and you will
wind up hurting yourself. So experiment and test to see what works
for you.
Your Enemy Is Insecurity and Neediness
Insecurity and neediness are two of the biggest obstacles to
success with women. Insecurity and neediness are two sides of the
same coin.
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A man is needy when he craves attention or recognition. He shows
that he's insecure when he ACTS on these needs.
Insecurity shows up when a man does not feel comfortable with
who he is or comfortable in the situation that he's in. He acts
tentative, weak, and unsure. He tries to put on a show of confidence
that is obviously fake. He says things that are out of place in an
attempt to get approval.
Women detect insecurity and neediness INSTANTLY.
Here are some examples of insecurity and neediness to avoid:
· Hanging on a woman. Don't touch a woman or crowd her too
much in the beginning. Women take this as neediness and
insecurity. Instead, lean back and let her become comfortable
being around you.
· Talking or saying negative things about women or past
girlfriends. If you talk to much about past girlfriends or other
women, or say negative things about them, a woman will judge
you to be insecure.
· Having emotional responses to things. If it's obvious to a
woman that you will get upset about things easily, then she will
judge you to be insecure.
· Looking to others to make decisions. Women like it when you
decide what's going to happen, then do it. If you are always
asking "Well, what do you think I should do?" and "Where do
you want to go tonight?" and "What do you want?" you'll come
off as needy. Just make decisions and go with it. If she has a
different idea, she'll let you know.
· Saying or doing things to just to be noticed or to get
compliments. I've known a lot of men who try to act cool or
show off to get attention. This telegraphs to a woman that
you're insecure and needy. Don't do it. If you're cool, she'll
figure it out without you telling her.
· Arguing. This is my favorite. Some people feel like they need to
argue with EVERYTHING. If you're one of these people, just
realize that this is a clear demonstration that you're insecure
and needy. You may always be right, but being overly
argumentative is bad for your sex life. Deal with it. If you really
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want to argue with something, do it in a funny way, not in a
serious way.
Thinking In Time Frames
Here's a common problem: A man tries to impress a woman by
doing things that show that he's a good LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP
kind of guy, but the woman responds by being stand-offish.
I have read some interesting research that shows that women have
a few main categories in their minds that they slot men into.
These are:
1) Not interested at all.
2) Interested as a friend.
3) Interested in a long-term relationship.
4) Interested in a sexual relationship.
Here's the interesting part: If a woman sees a man as a good
potential 'long term' mate, she'll usually hold back the sex.
On the other hand, if she gets sexually involved with a man, she'll
usually still be open to a long-term relationship.
Most men who would like sex make the mistake of doing things like
taking women to dinner, buying them gifts, and being romantic in
general. This triggers the "Hey, this guy is good long term material"
category in the woman's mind, and they hold back sex.
But if a man does things to turn a woman on earlier in the game
and she gets sexually involved, he can choose where he wants the
relationship to go. Are you with me on this one?
Go ask some men and women about this. They'll report back to
you what I'm telling you. Women know that if a man is doing all the
big romantic things like buying her gifts and taking her out that he is
displaying 'courtship' types of behavior. I mentioned earlier that
women take hints very well and read into things much more than men.
Unfortunately, men have no idea that their good deeds are being
interpreted as long term courtship demonstrations. Ahhhh!
So what's the solution?
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The solution is to stop doing the 'I'm courting you' things early on,
and start by being attractive, interesting and sexy. This puts the
balance of power in your hands, and puts you more in control.
I'm going to say it again: A woman will get into a long-term
relationship with a man that she's sleeping with. But she won't be as
likely to sleep with a man who's courting her. Get it?
How Men Usually Find Women
I've read several books on mating and courtship behavior among
different species of animals (Including humans!). The funny thing is
that humans do just about the same things as most other animals,
with slight variations.
Here are the main ways male animals (humans included) find
females:
· Staking out a small territory among other males where females
come specifically to select between males who are displaying for
them (called Lekking in the animal kingdom).
· Staking out a larger territory where other males aren't allowed
and showing that they can provide for a female because they
control a large territory.
· Visiting places where females gather or are likely to be and
displaying for them.
· Choosing a spot where they are very visible and displaying in
hopes that a passing female will show interest.
Some human equivalents of these are:
· Hanging out at a gym or on the beach with other guys to show
off for women.
· Buying a big house and inviting women over to see how
successful and rich you are, and that you can provide for them.
· Going to a Yoga class where you know there will be 10 women
for every man.
· Becoming famous or popular, thus placing yourself in the path
of many women.
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The point is, there's nothing new under the sun. If you want to
meet women, you have to:
1) Decide what kind of woman you want.
2) Find out what is attractive to her and be it.
3) Go where these women are likely to be (or set up a situation
where they come to you).
4) Approach them and engage (or, if you can figure out how to get
them to approach you, do that.)
It's all the same game. Most men that are failures with women
aren't willing to do what it takes to be successful. That's the bottom
line. I'm going to give you the secret ingredients that attract women
and invite you to combine some of them with your personality in order
to attract the kind of women that you're interested in. The question is
"Are you willing to do the work that it will take to be successful?"
The Six Things That Attract Women
I've done a lot of research on this topic, and I believe that women
are most attracted to these six thing:
1) Means (Wealth, possessions, gifts to them or providing for
them)
2) Power (Influence, Leadership, provide safety)
3) Fame
4) Looks (Including height)
5) Exclusivity (Royalty, already married, hard to get, affiliation)
6) Personality (Humor, creativity, romance, intelligence, mystique
etc.)
Now, numbers one through five are largely out of your immediate
control. If you're not rich, you're probably not going to get rich this
week. If you're not famous or tall, you're probably not going to be in a
hit movie or grow 6 inches in the next 24 hours.
So that leaves us with number six, PERSONALITY.
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The good news is that as far as I'm concerned, your personality is
your GREATEST ASSET in the success-with-women game.
Fortunately, it's the one thing you can change. And it's the one
thing that can OVERCOME all of the rest. After you've done what you
can to look your best, etc. you have to develop a personality that's
absolutely magnetic. Now let's talk about how you can do just that.
By the way, the one quality that attracts women the most (and
keeps them attracted) is not something that they can initially 'look'
for. It's the way they FEEL when they are with you or thinking of you.
In the end, if you don't have wealth, power, fame, or looks you're
going to have to use your personality to make them FEEL good. In the
end, your personality is the most powerful weapon you have.
Personality Traits That Attract Women
In the next chapter, I'm going to describe MY particular unique
personality and the 'character' that I become when I'm meeting
women.
But before I do that, I'd like to talk about some of the different
personality traits that women find most attractive. Some are better
when used with others, and some don't work well together. Here is the
list with brief descriptions. I'll talk more about combining after.
· Funny. Humor is just plain powerful with women. If you can
keep her laughing, you will go far.
· Intelligent and Creative. Intelligence is sexy IF it's used in a
way that's interesting to her. Use your creativity and intelligence
to surprise her with ideas, fantasies and unexpected things that
charm her.
· Educated. Education is attractive to women as long as it's used
in an interesting way. Some women are actually intimidated by
education, as they're not educated (This usually works in your
favor).
· Classy and Cultured. If you have class, women pick up on this.
Do your shoes and belt match? Do you understand interior
design and color contrast? Do you know about different types of
wine? Do you like foreign movies? Do you understand fashion?
Do you like Frank Sinatra? Do you enjoy exotic foods? Do you
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serve her Hors d'oeuvres and a glass of wine when she visits? Do
you open all doors for her? Women notice this stuff BIG TIME.
· Dominant. Women have an unconscious attraction to dominant
men. The dominant males in some primate groups account for
up to 75% of all the matings, while the less dominant males go
without. Same goes for humans.
· Thoughtful. Women don't just like gifts, they like knowing that
you were THINKING of them. The gift is a SYMBOL. Women feel
the same amount of good inside whether it's a card or a
diamond (of course the diamond lasts longer, so there are more
'times of feeling good!'). But the fact is that women like to know
that you're thinking about them. Even if you're telling a woman
that you don't like it that she was out with another guy, she'll
like it, because it means you were thinking about her!
· Notices Significant Details. Women don't just notice details,
they USE them to try to be attractive and attentive. If she is
wearing a sexy outfit, she didn't put it on by accident. If her hair
is done nicely, it wasn't a fluke. Women are very impressed and
attracted to men that notice these details.
· Unpredictable/Predictable. Here's a paradox. Women are
drawn to men that they can't control or predict. They obsess
over guys who flirt and give them attention, then don't call the
next day. Predictability is only attractive when it comes to
choosing a HUSBAND. Then a woman usually wants a man who's
VERY predictable.
· Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a
killjoy. Some men get upset and pout when a woman is happy,
and try to put down the things that she enjoys to sound
superior. This is usually a HUGE mistake. Enthusiasm is
infectious and attractive.
· Adventurous. Women are instantly attracted to men who like to
do extreme, adventurous, unusual, even dangerous things. It's
exciting. Adventurism is sexy.
· Aggressive. Women love men that know what they want and go
after it. Passion is a sign of life. I'm not talking about the kind of
aggressive that turns into date rape. I'm talking about the kind
of aggressive that turns into setting a goal and then going after
it with passion and getting it no matter what.
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· Confident/Cocky. Women are magnetically attracted to men
who are just a little bit too cocky. Just a little bit. This is a tough
one to explain. Many men take this to mean 'overly arrogant'
which is not what I mean. If you watch Pierce Brosnan in 'The
Thomas Crown Affair' or Clarke Gable in 'Gone With The Wind' or
Tom Cruise in 'Top Gun' you'll get an idea of what I'm talking
about. The confident/cocky trait is mild overconfidence combined
with humor. Drives women wild.
· Expertise. If you're an expert in an area that is interesting to
your kind of woman, this can be attractive. It needs to be
presented from a "I know a lot about this, let me show you"
perspective, not a "I'm cool and you're not" angle.
· Attention. Women like attention. And interestingly enough, it's
better to hint at the attention that you're giving them than to be
too overt about it. If you say "I was thinking about you earlier
today. And I just wanted to mention that I really like the sound
of your voice..." it's much more powerful than listening to them
complain about something so they think you're paying attention.
Get it?
· Disinterest, Indifference, a Challenge. Most women are used
to being pursued by men in one way or another. If you are
indifferent to a woman, make her think that you're only calling
because you're bored, and act almost disinterested sexually,
they'll often do their very best to get your attention. Different is
good in this case. Again, this drives most women crazy, and
even though they'd hate to admit it, it's ultra interesting to
them.
· Charm (attention with a polished, smooth approach). This is
hard to describe. Watch a James Bond movie to get an idea. And
watch 'Dirty Rotten Scoundrels.' Pay attention to Michael Cain's
character. Charm is powerful because it has a certain 'prince on
a white horse' aspect to it.
· Romantic Imagination and Perspective. Watch the movie
'Don Juan DeMarco' and listen to how Don Juan interprets the
world. Instead of just looking at the surface of a woman, he
looks within to find the beautiful part. A romantic imagination
sees opportunities for poetic comments, interesting stories,
fascinating history, and emotional interpretation in everything.
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· Expert in Body Language. This is important, as women are
constantly sending signals. I'll talk more in a later chapter about
this.
· Sexual Mastery. Women love sex just as much as men do. But
just like everything else in life, a great lover is not easy to find.
Women become instantly addicted to skillful lovers who know
how to make them feel ecstasy and teach them new ways of
feeling incredible.
Every woman is slightly different. There is no one magic system
that every woman responds to. If what you're doing doesn't work,
don't throw out the system... try it on a different woman. (The most
successful men I know will tell you that they are only successful
because they are able to accept 'no' and not take it personally. Again,
unsuccessful men take a 'rejection' as a personal assault on their inner
child. Don't make this mistake.)
So start right now. Take a moment and describe the type of
woman that you'd like to attract. Then write down the qualities that
you think will attract her. Then go to work cultivating these qualities.
The idea is to create your own winning combination and then find a
place to use it that has the best chances of working for you. You want
to come across as interesting, unique, original and desirable.
By the way, if you don't know what the women that you're
interested in are attracted to, ASK! That's right, just walk up to them
whenever you see one, and say "Can I ask you a question? I'm sure
that you're probably in a relationship right now, but will you tell me
something... I want to know what it is that attracts a woman like you
to a man. What do you look for?" You'll find that most of the women
you ask this question of will be glad to tell you. As a matter of fact,
you'll even find that some will help you in other ways if you ask.
They'll go shopping with you, help you decorate your house, help you
choose a hairstyle... everything.
But most guys are afraid to ask, or they feel like a puss because
they are asking a woman for help. Do yourself a favor. If you are
having trouble, get help. Women are amazingly generous when they
are helping a man get his 'attractiveness' together.
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Chapter 4: How To Use Communication And Humor
To Attract Women
Now that we've covered some of the 'inner' game, I'd like to share
with you some of the things that I've learned about the 'outer' game.
In later chapters, I'm going to teach you the specifics of exactly what
to say and do in different situations, but here I'd like to teach you
some basics about communication that I think will really help you get
the right frame of mind.
How Women Test Men And Why
In my opinion, most women, and especially the 'hotties' have gone
through a learning curve here in our western culture that has, on
average, given them a sort of `predictable psychological makeup.'
Now, there are differences between these women... some are smart,
some are not... some are tall, some are short... some are cerebral,
some are physical... etc. etc. etc... but there are things that most of
them have in common. I've made a study of these things... because
this is what interests me.
At some point in their lives, hotties began to be treated differently
because they were attractive. I mentioned the social psychology
concept earlier called `The Halo Effect.' Simply stated, attractive people
are assumed to be smarter, more honest, more trustworthy etc. than
others. The fact that people do whatever the hottie wants begins to
blur their sense of reality, and makes them believe that they can just
have whatever they want whenever they want it... AND THAT'S JUST
THE WAY LIFE IS. (This applies in general)
You'll notice that many super hotties will throw tantrums if they
don't like what's going on or not getting their way... this is a sure sign
that they are not living in the same reality as most people... when they
don't get what they want, they get upset because this has worked
since they were little...
Now, on a subconscious level, I've noticed that most hot women
realize that they are being ridiculous when they act like bitches, throw
tantrums, etc. but it doesn't really matter because it still WORKS for
them when they want what they want... are you with me?
Underneath all of this, they are still FEMALE and they are looking
for what other females are looking for...
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What are women looking for?
Well, for the record, I have no idea. After 30 years of studying
people, Freud said that there was one question that he didn't have the
answer to... "What do women want?" Nice.
BUT, here's my take on it: First and foremost, they want a man
that is in CONTROL (Of the situation, himself, his emotions, other
people, her... control of the entire reality that they share).
Let me ask you, if you were a woman that wanted to test a man to
see if he will stay in control, how would you do it? Would you ask the
man "If I get out of hand, will you spank me and put me in my place?"
NO WAY!!!
So they test us by CHALLENGING to see if we'll stay in control. The
reason I do all of this "Never give a woman a direct answer... unless
it's NO... Never give a woman exactly what she wants..." etc. is,
ironically, to give her what she REALLY wants... a man that's in control.
Women want a challenge. Think romance novel themes... if you
don't know what I'm talking about, sit yourself down for a week and
read Dangerous Men, Adventurous Women... How to Succeed With
Women By Being A Jerk... Endless Rapture... and Bad Boys... and think
about it.
Most of the time, I'm enjoying myself, talking about whatever
comes up, making jokes, and generally behaving like a normal person.
But, like anything else, if these techniques are used too much, they
become worthless... so they must be used with precision and at the
right moments.
What's interesting is that because I usually (but not always) do
these teasing and seemingly controlling things with a bit of a dry
humor spin, I believe that the woman that I'm with has an internal
response like "Wow, this guy is cocky, but I can't tell if he's serious or
not... and I want to find out... but either way, he's funny and he's
staying interested in me, and not being flagrantly abusive... so he must
be interested at SOME level..."
The key is to WATCH FOR THE TESTS and be ready when they
come.
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Most guys screw up when a woman acts bratty... when a woman
gets upset, they say "Oh, I'm sorry" and mess it up. Or they act
nervous, etc. You have to stay in control... if a woman starts getting
angry, instead of getting nervous, say "Oh, poor baby is throwing a
tantrum... so what, you've been doing this same thing since you were
2 and you didn't get your way."
SPANK!
Another realization that I've come to is that most women are
totally intrigued by men that seem uninterested and crass... it's almost
like they say to themselves "Wow, this guy seems kind of cocky... and
I can't believe that he's not interested in having sex with me like all
the other dumb pussies that I meet... He's funny and smart... I wonder
if I can get him interested in me... and when I do, I'll just dump him
like the other losers... but this might be fun..."
Get it?
But if you are going to act this way, you have to keep it up until
the end... and I mean to the end.
I'm going to address the `treating women well' issue again.
I treat women very well... they always tell me that they've never
met a man that treated them so well, etc.
How can this be when I seem like such a ball buster?
Well, it's simple really... I do nice things for them ON MY OWN
TERMS. I will surprise them with a thoughtful email, or a card... or I
might give them a nice massage... I open doors and walk on the
outside of the curb... like I said in my original email, I treat women
very well. But part of most women's romantic fantasy (in my opinion)
is taking control of the situation and doing things on MY terms. Try it
for yourself... next time you're going to meet a woman, tell her what to
wear... choose the food and tell her to trust you... if she asks for a kiss,
say "No"... but kiss her later when YOU feel like it... if you know that
she likes chocolate, and she asks for some... don't give it to her... but
surprise her with some next time you see her... get it?
Here are a couple of rules of thumb that I use:
1. Never give a woman a direct answer... unless the answer is NO. This
is a big one. If she says `Can we sit here?" I say "No, let's sit in this
one next to it" or if she says "How do you like my dress?" I say
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"Well, I think that I like it... just give me a few minutes to see it on
you" or if she says "Call me tomorrow" I say "No. You call me
tomorrow... cummon, you want me and you know it" Get it?
2. If she complains about you or doesn't like something, turn it up a
notch and do it more. If she says to me "I don't really like it when
you say that" I say "Well then you might want to leave, because I
say it a lot" Get it?
3. Women are CONSTANTLY testing to see if they can get you to
comply with them, and as soon as you do, they hit the road (or
marry you). This took me years to see and understand, but the fact
is that when you're dealing with a powerful, hot woman, she will do
all different kinds of things that make no sense at all logically, but
all the sense in the world when you understand her mindset. Hot
women can have anything they want. What they want is a
challenge... something that keeps their interest. Here it comes... If a
woman can have anything she wants anytime she wants it, then
WHY THE HELL DO GUYS THINK THAT THEY'RE GOING TO BE
INTERESTING BY DOING THE SAME THING THAT EVERY OTHER
GUY HAS DONE? Duh. Hey, I used to think this way... but then I got
a clue. Now, I pay very careful attention, and never let her have
what she wants. If she says "Kiss me" I say "No" if she says come
over to my house I say "I'm busy right now, I'll come over later" if
she says "I want you so bad, please make love to me" I say "Well, I
think that you need to wait a little longer, and besides, I'm not
finished kissing you" Get it? I NEVER give a woman exactly what
she asks for... EVER!
4. Always send mixed signals. Tell her I want to be friends, and kiss
her. Tell her that what she just did was unacceptable, then go kiss
her. Spank her if she does something nice. Also, respond differently
to the same thing. For example, one time if she comes over and sits
on my lap, I kiss her. Another time I push her off... get it? Never be
predictable... NEVER.
For the record, when I say "always" and "never" I don't really
mean "ALWAYS 100% WITHOUT EXCEPTION EVER." I mean do these
as much as you possibly can, because you really can't overdo any of
them as long as you stay cocky and funny while you're doing them.
The test is always "Is she laughing, smiling, having fun most of the
time?" If so, you can't overdo these four rules.
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The Very Attractive Women Are Approached All The Time
I'm going to remind you of something that I talked about earlier in
this book: Most attractive women are approached in one way or
another all the time by men.
I was watching Chris Rock doing a stand up routine recently. Chris
was telling the women in the audience that anytime a man is being
nice, it's because he's offering sex (or 'dick' as he said).
So if a guy says "Wow, you look great" what he really means is
"Wow, you really look great, would you like some dick?"
And remember that 'desirable' women including rich women,
beautiful women, famous women, whatever are used to being treated
like queens. (It's really no fault of theirs - even very handsome men
are notorious for acting arrogant. It's part of being a human. We can
all become spoiled easily if the right combination of circumstances
arise. By the way, it's good to keep a "You're spoiled, and I don't really
blame you for it... you were just luck to be born beautiful and have
everyone kiss your ass" attitude...)
Being spoiled, these women act bratty to get their way, but the ass
kissing and always getting their way also has another effect. Since
they are so used to being courted and having a man kiss their ass,
when you show up and act funny and charming, and don't play into
any of their games (make fun of them, do the pretend ass-kisser
imitation, tell them that they want you, tease them, don't answer ANY
of their questions about job, car, home, social, where you go, etc. and
even label all of those questions as "Did you get a list of these
questions like all the other shallow women around here?" etc.) it often
has the effect of them thinking "Wow, this is sure DIFFERENT." and it
gets their attention. The humor and arrogance (arrogance based on a
self-knowing, not an outer success or trappings thing) keeps their
attention.
I think that it's all about interrupting the current train of thought
with some type of DIFFERENT AND INTERESTING behavior. You can
use tricks or props or whatever, but you have to interrupt the woman
and first get her attention... then you can get to the good part of doing
the things that give her the FEELINGS that she wants and playing the
part of the MAN that her unconscious wants.
Many experts talk of getting rapport, acting like them, etc.
initially... I've found that breaking rapport usually works better for me.
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(Rapport is the concept of breathing, moving, talking like another
person so they feel a connection with you. Many people recommend
rapport techniques when meeting women.)
But it's a special kind of breaking rapport that I use. I break
rapport in a funny and charming way, which actually ASSUMES rapport
from the beginning (I insult women that I don't know in a playful way
all the time. Her only real choices are to respond internally and
externally with "This guy is a jerk, I'm outta here" or "You've got some
balls - but you're damn funny - and for some reason, I feel like I know
you")
When you point out a woman's quirks or insecurities in a way that
makes her laugh, you do so many positive things at once. She can't
deny that the things you're saying are true, BECAUSE SHE'S
LAUGHING. And she can't really hate you too much, because it's kind
of fun.
More On My Way Of Looking At Things
I don't ask women for permission to do things, and I don't look to
them to lead what's going to happen. I used to kind of watch what
they were doing, and take cues on how to act. Now I do and say what
I want, and look for cues from her so I know when to bust her balls.
I spent a long time learning how to get phone numbers from
women, only to realize that this wasn't the same as success. Then, I
learned how to get women to come over to my house, only to realize
that this wasn't the same as success. I finally realized that I have to
lead the way the entire time - just like in ballroom dancing. I have to
know where we're going, and lead the way the entire time.
But my most important realization is that THIS IS MY REALITY,
AND SHE IS A GUEST. Not the other way around. If a woman tries to
play a game with me, put me off, give me an excuse, etc. I've started
laughing out loud at them. At first, they don't know what's going on...
but then I say something like "Cummon... what, are you kidding? Give
me a break."
This tells them that their little ploys aren't going to even get by my
radar - never mind into my reality. I never get upset at them or let
them get to me emotionally (this is key, because if they sense that
they've found a button, they'll use it over and over again). As my
friend Eric once said "YOU'RE IN MY REALITY NOW."
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Let me point out that when I'm meeting women, I'm almost NEVER
thinking about a 'long term relationship' with them in the beginning. If
I like them, and later they prove to be someone that really amazes
me, then this will be a possibility.
My guess is that strong, exceptional, interesting men who are in
control of themselves and their realities are as rare for women as
super hot women are rare for men. See where I'm going with this?
Said differently, "Why do so many men settle for average or worse
looking women?"
I think the logic goes both ways. I mean, I know quite a few ass-
kicking men - but this is because I've literally spent years finding and
making friends with them. Most women aren't lucky enough to run
across one. And when they do, they usually mess it up by being a
bitch or uninteresting. So they just settle for whatever the best option
is at the moment. And they often wind up getting comfortable in the
process.
There's another interesting point that I've noticed lately:
Many of the marriages that I know of that have lasted for many
years (10+) have something in common: a woman that subtly controls
the man. I mean, think about the plot of most romance novels:
Woman meets wild man, woman tames man and lives happily ever
after with her new well behaved BOY.
So keep this in mind when you're interacting with women.
***Because I may be coming off a bit harshly here, I want to
mention something. If you could be in the room with me during my
interactions with a new woman that I'm interested in, you'd most likely
be thinking "This guy is funny as hell... but he's really pushing it. I
mean, he's on the borderline of saying something that's just too damn
arrogant. But wow, the woman just seems to get more and more into
him as this goes on... interesting." You would NOT be thinking "Wow,
this guy seems to me like a womanizer who's mean to women."
I say this so that you understand that all of the techniques that I
employ are part of the all-important 'Character' that I discussed
earlier.
By staying cocky and funny, women will laugh their asses off, get
frustrated that you're not playing to them, and finally crack and show
that they like you (this girl actually asked me to meet her). By the
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way, she's called me 'pompous,' 'arrogant,' and 47 other names, but
she laughs as she's saying it (the key).
If you're just a plain old run of the mill jerk, then none of this will
work. The 'assholes' who get laid usually have an angle (money, fame,
whatever) that they mix with the assholeness.
Mean, self-centered people with no social attractiveness are usually
out of luck.
So keep in mind the all-important ingredient: Humor.
NOTHING works for me like humor mixed with arrogance.
I also want to mention once again that I'm very flexible, and in
many situations, I will begin to do very sweet and thoughtful things for
a woman - just on my terms.
And when it comes to sex (***big key here***) I always pay
attention and learn what a woman likes. My goal is to be the most
fulfilling lover that she's had. Mix all this up with some special sauce,
and you have the recipe for hot women that love to have sex with you
and love you as a person as well because you're interesting to them.
Remember, women are not linear, logical creatures. If you do
things that make sense, they will do things that don't make any sense
at all.
If you do things that don't make any sense at all, then women will
often do what you want them to do.
It's just that you have to know exactly WHICH things to do that
don't make sense.
Make sense?
On Being A Man
There is a lot controversy around the differences between men and
women. My perspective is that men and women are different in many
ways, and that they usually respond differently to different types of
communication.
And as un-politically correct as this might sound, I believe that
most women respond very strongly to 'masculine' men. The more
confident, arrogant, and dominant I've acted, the more women have
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responded to me emotionally and sexually. (I'm not talking about
hitting a woman over the head and dragging her to your cave, Bubba.)
And now that I've thought about it a lot, and interviewed dozens of
women about this topic, I've realized that weak men are generally not
attractive to women. Women may demand things, whine, act like a
pain, but it's usually all a test of one sort or another.
If you're weak and shy and submissive, get over it. Start walking a
little taller, acting a little more self centered, and taking what you
want.
Now, I have to be careful here. I want to make sure you don't start
acting like an 'asshole' to women. The masculine man says "No" to a
woman calmly. The Asshole say's "No" to a woman in an angry tone.
Get it?
How To Tease (How To Speak Woman)
When I first met one particular girl, I took her hand when she got
into the car and held it for a few seconds... then took it away saying
"No hand holding this early" as if it were her idea... then at lunch, I
put out my hand for her to take it, and then when she went to take it,
I moved it before she touched me... then did it again... and again
saying "No, really..."
Finally, after the meal was finished, I reached out for her hand,
and she wouldn't take mine because I had teased her so much, so I
actually grabbed her hand and held it and massaged it. This was
teasing and teasing. And then when she finally gave up I gave it to
her.
Then, when I gave her a hug later on, she kissed my on the
cheek/neck a couple of and I accused her of kissing me a lot etc. (Idea
is that she's into me and she's the aggressor). One part of this is me
doing something (holding her hand) and then accusing her of doing it
("no hand holding this early").
This kind of behavior, sending mixed messages, and flirting doesn't
really make sense to most men, but to women it's magic.
Also, some women really get intrigued if you 'figure them out' early
on in the game and have their number... and then just 'laugh at how
cute they are' when they do things. This gets them all freaked out, as
they feel like you're in control and they don't know what to do next...
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like you know all the games they're playing and won't fall for any of
their old tricks... this makes them nervous as they don't have any
POWER OR AMMO!
They love this, as men are hardly ever in control. And they secretly
want someone who is. (It's VERY important not to become the
'friend/therapist' with this information... and start kissing their ass!
The idea is to use it to bust on them, not to be understanding.)
I also tell women early on that I think that they'll make a nice
'friend.'
It's funny to see how the friendship frame works with them,
because this gets them thinking, often for the first time "Wow, maybe
I just found a man that is smarter than me, knows my little games,
and HE has higher standards than ME for once... and now he's talking
about being 'just friends!' Oh no! Doesn't he like me? Doesn't he want
me like all the other guys?" A key here is to always keep them
guessing... never get too into them or they'll get right into their old
games, etc.
Another interesting observation that I've made is that women only
understand CODE, not direct language.
Little boys tease little girls when they're 8, and women still love it
when they're 28 and 48. I like to find something about them that
they're just a little insecure about, and make fun of it in a way so they
don't know if I'm serious.
The metaphor that I use is that women are like the Enigma
machines on Russian submarines. These machines were able to
transmit messages to each other, but also able to change the codes
they used each time. Women are much more interested in giving and
getting subtle hints.
If you say to a woman "I really like you" it won't be as effective as
saying to them "You really like me" in a teasing way. Do you
understand?
I speak in metaphor and story, talk about feelings and longings,
speak code, and try to never speak directly.
Let me give you a few more examples:
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If you want to have sex with a woman, you could say "Hey, why
don't we have sex?" Go ahead and try that one sometime and let me
know how it works for you.
Or, you could try this... Next time you're alone with a new woman,
stand up, take their hand, and pull them up to their feet. Then give
them a hug, let go, and sit back down. After she sits again, say "I just
wanted to hug you." Then, later hug her again and cuddle with her.
While cuddling, smell her neck and tell her how good she smells... and
don't stop. Within a few minutes she'll be telling you how hot she's
getting.
Two different paths to the same outcome. It's just that one
happens to work about a hundred times better than the other.
Men like to go out hoping to 'get laid.' Women like the idea of
being swept away by the moment... especially when it's a taboo thing
and they shouldn't be doing it, etc. The more unplanned things seem,
the better. For instance, she happens to wind up in my your bedroom
and you happen to be massaging her, smelling her, etc. it's seen as
`meant to be' or something that happened in an unplanned romantic
way, and therefore a good thing to get swept away by.
If you want to increase your chances of success with women,
create situations that lead to these situations. Ask yourself, "What
situation would facilitate the outcome that I'm looking for naturally?"
Remember that women like to be swept away by the moment, they
don't like to think that they're being used.
Another fun thing I do to demonstrate to women that I'm savvy
and know the language is to interpret gestures and expressions and
then comment back as if they had said something.
So for instance, if a woman looks at someone walking by and then
wrinkles up her nose and gets that "Gross" look on her face, I might
respond with "That's what I was thinking."
Get it? I'm pretending like she actually said "Gross" to me.
Or if a woman takes my hand, I might say "Oh, really?"
I'm pretending like she said "I'm attracted to you."
Women are very expressive with their body language and facial
expressions, but they often express themselves in very subtle ways.
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If you can tune into these little cues, let them know that you're
tuned, and then respond with fun remarks that show you're clued in,
you'll be rewarded. (Notice: Do not start ACTING like a woman now
that you know this. This technique is to be used sparingly and only to
let a woman 'know that you know' and not as your main approach to
women. Many men make the mistake of learning how women act, then
IMITATING them all the time. This is not what you want to do, trust
me.)
Humor
Here's how I mentally approach meeting a new woman: I'm cocky
and funny, I steal their lines, I tease them, and I don't ever give them
a break.
In my opinion, the one most important skill, no matter your looks,
height, age, or income - is humor.
I don't care if you're four feet tall and have one eye. If you can
make women laugh consistently and get those good feelings flowing
through them, they'll love you.
I decided last year to start actually STUDYING comedy, as I've
found that people (women) respond to it better than any other thing in
the whole entire universe. So I did a bunch of reading on the internet
to find the best books, and I bought about 5 or 6 of them.
One book that I read called "Comedy Writing Secrets" by Helitzer
made a great point. He said that most of being funny is the
CHARACTER and not the jokes.
Most of the guys that I meet who want to learn to meet women are
working on the 'jokes' in their life and not the 'character.' I did it for
about two years myself. I tried to learn all kinds of lines and B.S.
It finally dawned on me that women were not really that concerned
with all of that... they wanted a particular CHARACTER. The lines didn't
much matter, as long as they fit in with the character. Now that I have
created this CHARACTER for myself, things are all different. Women
now call me. They pursue me. They want to be around me. It's strange
and magical and weird.
So what's the character that they want? Good question.
I have a good friend who's the best I've ever seen at picking up
women in bars and having sex with them that night. Now, I do better
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getting numbers and following up. But this guy is just a machine. And
his whole mindset towards meeting women is to be "Cocky and funny"
(his words). My opinion is that women are turned off by arrogant
men... UNLESS... they're DAMN FUNNY. This magic combination will
attract women like Bill Clinton attracts chubby interns. I'm following in
my buddy's footsteps.
I'll try to summarize the character that I've developed:
"I know that this girl is secretly trying to pick up on me... I'm going
to play hard to get, make fun of her, be indifferent towards her, and
generally bust her balls as much as possible. I know that she loves a
guy that is so sarcastic that it makes her nervous, so I'm going to
really keep the heat on... and when she starts to show any interest at
all on the outside, I'm going to blow her off and make her prove to me
that she wants me... so I can reject her again."
I do crazy things, like if I'm standing next to a girl at a bar, I'll turn
to her and say in a completely serious voice "Will you PLEASE stop
touching me?" And then look them right in the eye.
Or say "What are you doing at a bar for godsakes? Can't you find a
nice normal guy? Or are you desperate?" All with a completely straight
face.
I say things that make them actually think that I'm serious, but
leave a shadow of a doubt.
Here's what I'm looking for: If they respond in an insecure way and
say "Oh, I'm sorry... I didn't know that I was touching you" I'll keep it
going... and say "Well, you did. And if you're going to keep doing it, I'd
appreciate it if you'd touch a little higher." They crack up.
If they shoot something funny back like "Well, touchy touchy" and
they know that I'm kidding, I just stay in character and say "Yes, I
don't like being touched. So keep a foot or so between us please" and
keep it going.
And yes, sometimes (not often) I'll meet a cold one and she'll get
uptigh I just walk away.
If you're going to do this, you have to remember to keep it going
for the entire time... don't turn into a dumb ass at the first sign of her
liking you. Keep up the character, playing hard to get, etc. forever!
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How To Be Funny, The One Page Course
Here's a little mini-course on how to be funny:
First, go read "Comedy Writing Secrets" by Helizer. And while
you're at it, watch some good stand up comedy routines like Chris
Rock, Eddie Murphy and Robin Williams. Listen for how they use word
play, double meanings, exaggeration, and misinterpretation to create
humor.
It's time to get yourself a set of standard things that you say for
some of the most common situations.
Here's a list of some that I use personally and how you can use
them:
1. Whenever someone has an emotional response to something,
say "How do you REALLY feel about it?" For instance, if a
woman says "I just HATE it when people smoke around me!"
say "How do you REALLY feel about it?" The sarcasm is that
they've showed that they have VERY strong feelings, so the
"How do you REALLY feel" creates a joke on them that they're
overly emotional.
2. Say "Anyway" and look away quickly after making a wise crack.
For instance, if someone says "That girl over there is ugly" say
"Oh, I thought she was you-anyway" (look away quickly). The
looking away and quick "Anyway" trying to get off the topic
creates a funny moment.
3. Misinterpret what women say. Always listen for opportunities to
misinterpret words like it. If you say "Let's go over to the bar to
have a drink" and the woman says "Let's do it," turn to her and
say "Let's do it? You mean right here? I think the line for a
bathroom stall is too long, and I'd rather have a drink."
4. Look for sexual innuendo in everything, and use it to accuse her
of trying to seduce you before you even know her. If she says
"Well, I'm getting tired, and I think it's time for bed" say "Bed? I
mean, I don't even know if you know how to kiss... and you're
trying to get me into bed? What happened to the old days
where you could make friends first?"
5. Exaggerate. If a woman walks by that's overweight, say "What
would you guess? 900 pounds?" Or if a woman complains about
part of her body or her clothing (I love these opportunities)
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exaggerate it. For instance, she says "My hair looks like hell
today" you say "I didn't want to say anything." Ohhhh this is
funny stuff. You'll usually get a hit on the arm (for which you
can spank her on the ass). Then you can go on all night making
fun of her hair, talking about how everyone is looking at it, how
you're embarrassed to be seen with her because of it, etc.
6. Connect things around you current affairs in a funny way. If a
woman with a huge butt walks by say "Hey, Jennifer Lopez is in
the house." If a woman starts talking about how she just bought
herself a new car, say "I like the effect that the Independent
Woman song is having on you." (These are, of course, currently
funny. Next year it will be a different set of things)
7. Don't smile too much, and don't laugh at your own jokes very
often. When you smile or laugh, it releases the tension. If you
can keep a straight face, the joke stays funnier longer.
OK, there's a list of basic things that I've learned about how to be
funny. I'd recommend that you start studying humor, read books
about it, go to comedy clubs, and learn more advanced skills.
Also, start reading Maxim and Stuff magazines. Read how they
always use reversal humor. This is some good funny stuff.
Let's Be Friends
Have you ever noticed how women will say "I like him, but only as
a FRIEND."
Don't you hate that?
I thought about that one for a long time, and a friend of mine and I
have figured out how to turn this one around. Now I always make
reference to `making friends' and `let's get together and make friends'
and `if nothing else, we can be friends' in the first conversation and
when setting up the first coffee date.
Then when on the date, I talk about why I like to make `friends'
first to get to know the other person. `I think that you're going to
make a nice friend.'
Then, after the friendship frame is established, I flirt like hell, and
make sexual innuendoes and jokes. This immediately sets up the idea
that I'm very in control of myself, and that I'm going to JUDGE
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whether l want to be more than friends based on something more than
JUST HER LOOKS.
This is something that a woman has most likely NEVER
encountered (as you know, this is a favorite of mine).
By the way, if you talk about being friends first, it makes you
remember to look past the looks and find out what kind of person
you're dealing with (If I had a dollar for every guy I know, including
myself, that screwed his life up by getting too involved with a woman
because she was attractive on the outside, but turned out to be a
horrible person...)
You can keep up this 'let's be friends' fun forever. Even after you
start dating, still talk about it. It's fun to have fun with it. You'll see.
More Nuggets of Gold
Always end conversations, meetings, and phone calls first.
I got this idea from the book "The Rules." You remember that book
that was written about how to get a man to marry you? Well, it's a
great book. But I don't think the authors would like the reasons why I
think it's great. I take all of it and turn it around. When you play the
games that women play on THEM, you will not believe the responses
you get.
Now, I used to be against any kind of 'game playing.' I still don't
like lies, cheating, and general dishonesty or manipulation. BUT, when
you use these things in the right way, it becomes kind of a 'game' that
women LOVE to play. It's strange, but women love to tease and be
teased. And if you don't take this stuff too seriously, you can have
some real fun.
But, I digress... The reason to end conversations, calls, and
meetings first is because it does two things: First, it says "I'm not a
needy guy, and I have things to do. I'm busy, and if you want me,
you're going to have to work to get me."
Second, it sets up a situation where YOU are in control of the
situation. If you will start doing this with EVERY call, EVERY meeting,
and EVERY conversation, you will be blown away at the responses
you'll get.
You'll have women say "What? But we're having so much fun...!"
and "Well, when can I see you again?" and "Don't you like me?"
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By the way, don't take the bait when they say these things! Say
"Of course I like you, and of course I'm having fun, but I'm busy and I
have a few things to do, so call me tomorrow and maybe I can get
together with you at the end of the week again."
I LOVE THIS!!! Love it! Love it! Love it!
And women love it too. As much as you might think this is cruel
and unusual punishment, women love nothing more than to go home
wondering "Does he love me? Does he like me? Will he call me? Did he
have fun?"
I know, I know... sounds too bizarre to be true, but trust me.
Tease and do these, and you'll find that they'll work like a charm...
plus have the added bonus of being damn fun!
***I have to insert here that I've given this advice to many a
needy man who have rejected it whole heartedly. They continue to act
needy and not let women go at the end of the night, when talking on
the phone, etc. By not making themselves scarce and unusual, they
make themselves valueless. Don't make the same mistake yourself.
Another one that I use often is "Don't say caring and affectionate
things directly, say them indirectly." Women have a love for
metaphors, demonstrations, stories, gifts, etc.
For instance, saying "You're beautiful" 12 times a day isn't
attractive, but writing a poem that says it and leaving it somewhere as
a surprise is very attractive.
Also, if I'm appreciating something about a woman, I point to a
specific part or thing or detail. Women love it when you NOTICE
things.
This reminds of the very important point: Women LOVE it when
you THINK about them. If you say "I was thinking about you, so I
wrote you" the woman will have something inside go 'click!' I believe
that women like gifts not because they have value, but because they
say "I was thinking about you, I have these feelings for you, and this
gift is a symbol of that."
Does this make sense to you?
I didn't think so. It didn't to me, either. But IT'S TRUE. So start
telling women that you were thinking about them, that you were
remembering times with them, that something reminded you of them.
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If you do this, you don't have to buy gifts anymore! They know you're
thinking about them! Nice.
Here's another one that I've figured out that doesn't make any
sense at all: Women love 'Mismatched Communication.' What I mean
by this is that women like it when you're doing one thing serious and
one thing jokingly, or being verbally tough, but physically affectionate.
Let me give you a couple of examples.
If you're talking to a woman and telling her that you think she's
beautiful, keep a very SERIOUS look on your face. This adds all kinds
of drama to the situation, and gives the woman something to imagine
containing all kinds of deep meaning. (By the way, most men smile too
much. Smile less when talking to women. It will keep them wondering
what you're thinking and it will help you.)
Or, while kissing a woman, reach down and bite her on the neck
just a tiny bit too hard (no blood please).
One thing tender, one thing slightly violent.
Or maybe you've just gotten done holding her hand and kissing
her. When she stands up, give her a spank on the ass. And tell her it
was because she's such a good kisser.
The idea here is that what you're feeling is causing you to do
something IRRATIONAL. You've being swept away by the moment. Or
you're having conflicting feelings inside. This leaves it to her to figure
out what you're 'REALLY' feeling, which women love to do.
It also makes you the most interesting, unpredictable guy she's
ever met.
You know, another thing that I've noticed is that women LOVE to
talk about sex. Most men are not comfortable bringing up the subject
with women they don't know. But try telling a couple of dirty jokes, or
talking about a sex program you saw on T.V. Most women will jump
right in and start giving their take on the topic. It's amazing. Try it.
On Predictability
Don't be predictable. Do the unexpected when they LEAST expect
it.
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But don't overdo by acting extreme too often. If you do the
unexpected too much, it will come off as unstable, etc.
People in general, including women, are attracted to the novel...
the unusual... the different.
Predictability is the enemy of interesting.
If you always act predictable, then by DEFINITION you're not
interesting.
So keep doing things that are interesting and unexpected.
If she wants a kiss, say "No." But kiss her later when YOU feel like
it. If she wants to sit on your lap, push her off. But give her a hug
later when YOU feel like it.
The Dark Side: Don't do things that are too far out in order to be
unpredictable. I said be unpredictable, not UNSTABLE. Don't get too
wild, or you'll come across as being loopy.
Another facet of this mindset: Don't be too friendly too early.
This includes touching and smiling. If you do either too much,
you'll mess it up for yourself.
If you act too interested too early, you'll come across as needy. By
leaning back and keeping a calm, indifferent attitude you'll be more
interesting.
I like to take this idea to it's extreme by teasing and making a
woman beg me for things that she wants and commit to things during
times when it's unfair (in a fun way, of course).
For instance, if she wants a kiss, tell her that you'll only give her
one if she rubs your back, etc.
Use your imagination here. The idea is to do things that are
unexpected and different.
To summarize, if you become too predictable, you will become
uninteresting to a woman. We humans are naturally drawn to things
that we cannot completely figure out. So keep some things a mystery.
Do some things that don't make sense. Don't be predictable.
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On Testing
The way I look at it, women are constantly testing men. They do
this by acting bratty, making demands, complaining, commanding,
being emotional, etc.
Know what I'm talking about?
Here's what I do:
When a woman tries to test me, for instance she says "I don't like
that heavy metal that you were listening to" I turn it up a notch and
send it back to her... so I might say "Well, then you might want to not
get in my car anymore, because it's all I'm going to play now that
you're whining about it." (Said in a half serious tone so she can't tell if
I'm kidding)
This sends the message that if she tries to act controlling, I'm
going to just turn whatever she's being a pain about up one notch and
give it to her again. Women get the message loud and clear when you
do this.
It may be hard to believe, but I've heard MANY women say things
like "I HATE IT when a man does what I tell him to do" or "I just walk
all over him, and it's so annoying to me."
Some women actually have standard tests that they give to new
guys to see if the guy will do what they tell him to do. I've now
learned NEVER to accept demanding or controlling behavior. I usually
just laugh and say "Cute." By laughing and saying "Cute" I short
circuit their testing mechanism and let them know that I'm going to be
more of a challenge than they thought.
Voice Tone
Voice tone is VERY important.
If you want to be more successful with women, work on developing
a deep, resonant, musical, articulate voice tone.
And I don't care if you have the whiniest, highest pitched voice
anyone's ever heard.
You can improve it if you try.
First of all, practice talking slower and deeper.
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You should be able to feel your voice resonating in your chest when
you talk.
Keep practicing until you can.
I highly recommend that you go out and buy the audio series "The
Sound Of Your Voice" by Carol Flemming.
Also, get on eBay or Amazon.com and look for some voice training
tapes.
They're well worth the investment and practice. Women find a sexy
voice irresistible. This is a big one, so get to work on it.
Fear
If you need to get 'fear' handled, read the book "Feel The Fear And
Do It Anyway" by Jeffers. This is an AWESOME book on getting fear
handled.
On Persistence:
A common theme I hear:
"NO
No
No
No
No
NO
NOOO
Noooo
Make love to me right now!"
Persistence is key. Never give up... if a woman says "We're not
going to have sex tonight" I immediately think to myself "Ohhh, she
just let me know that she's feeling some temptation and wants to get
the responsibility off of herself... this is going to be fun and easy."
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Trust me on this one.
Their words are usually hollow and meaningless... watch their
BEHAVIOR...
***Now, DON'T take this to mean that if a woman says "STOP"
when you're touching her that she wants you to rape her... this kind of
dumb-ass thinking will result in jail and a large new boyfriend for you
named Otis.***
Just realize that a "No" that is said with longing in her eyes or
passion in her kiss usually means "Get me more turned on by kissing
my neck, caressing me, smelling me, and saying romantic and sexy
things."
I've realized that women shift gears all the time, and next time you
talk to her she might be in a completely different mood, etc. so if you
really want her, don't give up the first time something weird happens.
How To Answer Any Question That You Don't Want To Answer
Women have a way with questions.
They seem to always ask questions that men don't want to answer.
Questions like:
"Are you seeing anyone else right now?"
"How do you feel about marriage?"
"Do you want kids?"
"How do you feel about me?"
"Do I look fat in these pants?"
Know what I'm talking about?
Well, it took me awhile, but I finally figured out how to deal with
tough questions: Evasive Action.
Here's how it works. She asks you a tough question. You don't
miss a beat, and answer with the answer she wants to hear. Then you
throw in a slapstick comedy line.
For instance:
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Say she asks: "Are you seeing other women?"
You answer: "No... other men."
Get it?
Here's another one:
She asks: "Do you love me?"
You answer: "Of course... as a friend."
And another:
She asks: "Where were you last night? I called."
You answer: "I was home thinking about you... but since you didn't
call early enough, I went out and hired ten strippers."
At first, I figured that this tactic wouldn't work. But then I tried
using it a few times, and behold, it worked in almost every situation.
And if she pushes and asks again: "Cummon, seriously..."
You say: "No, seriously. I was home thinking about you... OK, OK,
you got me. I really went out with ten other women. Are you happy?
What, are you feeling insecure?"
If you keep it up, they'll give up.
Make sure you don't act busted or nervous and it will work for you,
too. Remember, women can take hints very well, and if they think that
there's an answer that they don't want to hear, they'll give up and
stop asking.
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Chapter 5: On Looks and Body Language
Most men that I talk to who want to learn how to be successful
with women ask me things like "What's a good line?" or "What do you
say when they say this?"
For some reason, most people forget that language is a
SECONDARY way of communicating. It's to be used when there's no
faster way.
When two people are communicating in person, most of the
communication is happening through body language and voice tone,
and very little through the actual words.
I've seen studies that show that as little as 7% of your
communication is the words, and the other 93% is your body language
and voice tone.
So which do you think is more powerful when dealing with women?
Right, right... the body language and voice tone.
Body Language Basics
Many people agree that women are far more sensitive to body
language than men are.
I have to say, in my experience, women can detect all kinds of
things from body language. Ask a female friend to describe what's
going on with a person by looking at them, and you'll be surprised at
all the information they'll give you.
So it follows that if women are so in tune with body language, you
might as well get some of the basics together so you're transmitting
the right message.
My opinion is that women prefer men that are confident, bordering
on arrogant.
Most women will tell you that arrogant men turn them off, but I've
found that if you mix humor with a little arrogance, it's a killer.
So how do you use your body to telegraph confidence?
Well, first of all you walk upright, hold your head up, and hold your
shoulders back.
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Next, you SLOW DOWN your movements, and make slower,
calculated gestures.
Then, you make eye contact and keep it when you see women. You
don't look away until they do, and you kind of squint and raise an
eyebrow.
I've done a lot of work in this area, and I've found that by
SLOWING DOWN, I create mystery and intrigue. I literally practice
slowing down my walk, my gestures, how fast I turn my head, how
fast I talk, even how fast I blink.
Also, start taking up more space and opening up your physiology.
If you're seated, keep your legs and arms uncrossed. Keep your legs
far apart and your shoulders back. Don't lean forward, lean back.
This might sound a little far out to some people, but these LITTLE
details make all the difference when dealing with a woman.
It's amazing how fast most women can detect insecurity, neediness
and low self-esteem.
I personally believe that when a man is self-confidant (or, more
specifically, a woman BELIEVES that a man is self-confident) this is
attractive to women on an UNCONSCIOUS level. What I mean is that I
think this activates a part of a woman's brain that can't help but feel
an attraction.
If you'd like a model of confidence, watch some James Bond
movies. You'll notice that James almost never smiles, and I can't
remember a time that I've ever seen him laugh.
But James is the sex symbol of masculine adventure.
Does he do the things that I mentioned above? Of course. That's
where I learned a lot of them. Ha!
Another way to demonstrate and project confidence is to PAUSE
while you're talking. Pausing on purpose creates suspense and tension.
It's great. If you combine pauses with serious looks, you will create
an air of power and confidence.
For example, you might say "Well, if I were you, I'd just tell her
what you think" like so... "Well... (pause) if I were you... (pause and
look into eyes with serious look) I'd just tell her what you think."
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This creates what's known as a 'subtext' to the communication. On
the surface you're talking about the normal conversation. But
underneath, you're communicating suspense, confidence, and
mystery.
If you learn how to mix a seductive voice tone and body language
with regular conversation, you'll find that you can get women turned
on talking about random things like the weather.
Pause often. It will do your communication style good.
Signs That A Woman Is Interested
I've read all the books that say "If a woman tilts her head to the
side, licks her lips, fondles her hair and looks over her shoulder at you,
there's a 67% chance that she's interested in you."
Here's what I've found:
The main sign signal that I look for now is "Is she acting friendly to
me?"
That's it. Now, of course some women are more forward than
others, but overall, if a woman is acting friendly and keeping up an
interesting conversation, you're usually doing pretty well.
The key is to KEEP GOING AND CONTINUE TO THE NEXT STEP
ALWAYS.
I have to stop and explain this.
Most men don't realize that THEY NEED TO KEEP ADVANCING.
If your conversation is going well, ask for a phone number.
If you're out for a walk and the conversation seems to be going
well, reach over and kiss her.
If you're at your house watching a movie and you start kissing,
take her hand and lead her to your bedroom... get the idea?
Keep advancing.
Women like this and expect it. If they're not comfortable, they'll
tell you about it. But don't worry. Just keep going, and advance again
at next opportunity.
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Don't push, advance.
More on this stuff:
Read `Body Language' by Julius Fast, Chapter 7... about Mike. I've
read that chapter about 50 times. You may not get it at first, but keep
reading it until you do. The more you learn, the more you'll get it.
Also, read `The Rules'... yea, the one for women. Do that stuff... it
works... end all conversations first, etc.
And read `How to Make Love to a Woman' by Morganstern. Good
stuff in there too. And learn how to be funny... do whatever you have
to do. It's the magic ingredient to add to your cockyness that sets the
mixture ablaze.
On Cuddling
I personally love to cuddle. I discovered something almost entirely
by accident one time when I was talking to a girl on the phone one
night. We were having a discussion about the differences between men
and women and I said something to the effect of:
"Do you like to cuddle? I really like to cuddle... as a matter of fact,
if I had to choose between cuddling and sex, I'd choose cuddling, now
don't get me wrong, I love sex... but cuddling is the best... can you
cuddle all night?"
Then I said "I really like to kiss, and I can just kiss and cuddle...
and touch someone all night... and feel wonderful..."
By the time I was finished, she started saying "I'm really getting
turned on right now"... she actually asked me to have phone sex with
her!
I've had this happen on the phone several times since, and it's not
a coincidence.
When you're talking to a woman, if you start talking about kissing,
cuddling, touching... and you are very specific about it... "I like to run
the tips of my fingers over the part of your shoulder where it touches
your neck..." a woman will start to actually experience it.
Try this one!
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If you can learn how to talk to women in a way that stimulates
their imagination, you can get them turned on over the phone.
I'm sure you can imagine the benefits of having this skill. If you
don't have any ideas about how to talk romantically, just read a couple
of romance novels. I know that they make no sense, but use the stuff
anyway. It works!
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Chapter 6: The Basics of Style and Class, Plus More
On How To Fascinate Women
Be Prepared! Expect...
It's funny to me sometimes how people expect to not succeed. For
instance, I once heard someone say "A woman won't get into an
unmade bed." This is actually pretty interesting if you think about it.
My point here is to encourage you to not only expect success in your
mind, but also expect success in the real world.
Here are a couple of ways to expect and plan for success:
1. Keep your house organized and clean.
2. Keep your bed made with clean sheets.
3. Keep a few nice things to drink in the house so you can offer
them to guests.
4. Keep some 'protection' in the house.
See where I'm going with this?
If you're not prepared to have a guest, then you're going to do all
kinds of things to screw up your chances for success with women.
Right now, think of all the things you need to do so that there are
NO obstacles preventing you from success in your car, house, etc.
Now let's talk about a few ways to REALLY separate yourself from
most other men.
Learn To Cook A Few Good Meals
Cooking has all kinds of major advantages.
It costs less money, you get to eat something you like, it often
takes less time, you don't have to try to get a woman to come back to
your house (she's already there), it's romantic, it shows that you have
taste... and the list just goes on.
Get yourself an unusual apron (I have a cow print one) and get
yourself a cookbook or so (or get out on the internet and find a few
good recipes).
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Things like Pasta are always easy, and they go well with wine and
candles... just put her on the couch with a glass of wine and a funny
'chick flick'... or have her keep you company on a stool in the kitchen.
Oh, and get a few chocolate covered strawberries for dessert.
Perfect feed her material. (Bonus if you make them yourself... even if
they don't turn out perfect you get MAJOR points)
The rap goes like this: "Hey, I've got a great idea. I've been dying
to cook this great pasta dish that I love. Why don't you come over
here and I'll make you dinner..."
It's a no brainer, even for women who you've just met.
Learn A Few Cold Reading Methods
Women love things like Astrology, Tarot Cards, Palmistry,
Handwriting Analysis, Psychics, and anything else you can think of that
men aren't interested in.
Here's what to do:
Go get the books "Handwriting Analysis" by Amend, "Palm
Reading: A Little Guide To Life's Secrets" by Fairchild and "An
Introduction to Hand Reflexology" by Brown. You can order all of them
at Amazon.com.
Then sit down for an evening and read them. Learn some basics
about how to tell people what they're like from samples of
handwriting, looking at their palms, feeling tension in their bodies, etc.
This stuff is ABSOLUTELY FASCINATING to women.
All you have to do is take a woman's hand, look at it, and say
"Well, you're a very interesting person."
That's it... it's almost like magic.
After revealing to her all of her secret desires and such, you can
move directly into your hand massage and Reflexology methods. I'm
hoping that the benefits of this speak for themselves.
By the way, it doesn't hurt to know a few advanced or unusual
massage moves either. So you might want to check out a couple of
books on massage while you're at it.
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Get A Few Good Props
Props are things that give a woman something to talk about.
A big stuffed animal in your house might be a prop.
Your dog might be a prop.
A picture of you and your mom might be a prop.
Coloring books and crayons are a great prop that a friend of mine
has used for years.
The idea here is to have things in your house that are unusual,
interesting, and fascinating to play with, talk about, watch, whatever.
Books and magazines about interesting topics make great props. I
have a big book called "Sexual Secrets" on my bookshelf. I didn't
realize that it was such an attention magnet, but whenever anyone,
male or female sees my bookshelf, they instantly go for that book. It's
big, bold, and provocative. Keep a few good books like this one around
for discussion. The book that I mentioned earlier about Palmistry is a
GREAT prop. It's a tiny book, about three inches square. Just leave it
on your coffee table so that a woman can find it on her own, which
leads to the discussion, the palmistry, the touching, etc.
Magic is another great prop. You can learn a few easy coin magic
tricks in an afternoon. These work great as conversation starters, for
fun with waitresses, etc. Magic is just an all around winner in the props
department.
If you play a musical instrument, make sure it's out and about, and
ready for play. Unless, of course you play accordion or tuba.
Take a minute and think about what kinds of things the women you
are interested in would find fascinating, interesting, and irresistible.
Then scatter them around your house.
Chivalry
My experience is that women love chivalry.
I personally like to open doors for women, etc.
Here are a few things that you can do that women will find
irresistible:
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Open doors for them. I open all doors. Car doors, house doors,
restaurant doors... any door that shows up. If you step just a little
ahead and open each door, this will create an impression.
Pull out their chairs. Only do this if it makes sense and it's
reasonable. But if you can do it, do. Women love to feel like a man is
watching over them and making sure that taking care or them. This is
another little way to show it.
Walk on the outside of the sidewalk. Most men, and even many
women don't know that men are 'supposed' to walk on the outside of
the sidewalk (closest to the traffic) so in case a car jumps the curb
she'll be safe and he'll be hit. Do this, and if they don't know why
you're doing it, explain this. Nice touch.
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Chapter 7: Where And How To Meet Women
I intuitively figured that there were certain major steps to 'meeting
women,' if you will. This is how my mind naturally thinks.
I've now broken these down in my mind to chunks like
"Approaching Women," "Getting Phone Numbers" etc. which I'll explain
here and in future chapters.
I'd like to add here that different people have different personal
views about the ideas of meeting women, 'getting laid,' relationships,
etc.
I'm not going to try to convince you that my way is the best way,
but I'll share my personal values with you. When I'm in a 'relationship'
with a woman and we've agreed to be 'exclusive,' then I'm faithful to
that woman.
If I'm single, then I date whoever I want, whenever I want and
have no problems or hang ups with sex, seeing more than one woman
at a time, etc. Some people see things differently, which is fine, but I
wanted you to know where I was coming from on this.
By the way, the things that I'm sharing with you work whether
you're just meeting a woman or if you've known her for years... or
even if you've been married forever.
And contrary to what many men think, women usually love it that
you've taken the time to learn things like what I'm teaching you. It
makes things more fun and interesting for them.
Where To Meet Women
Here's the deal: If you want to meet more women, you have to go
places that they are.
If you like athletic women, go to the gym or spend time at the
coffee shop or juice bar next to a gym.
If you like spiritual women, take yoga or meditation classes.
If you like large women, hang out at Weight Watchers.
Are you with me here?
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The point is that you have to put yourself in a 'high probability'
situation to meet women.
A sure place to find single women is bars and nightclubs. But this is
also a sure place to find a lot of horny guys that are picking up on
these women.
I'll talk later about how to be successful in different situations, but
for now I'd like you to think about where women that you'd like to
meet hang out. And then start going there yourself.
A great place to meet women is ONLINE. If you need practice
talking to women, invest in an AOL membership. For $23.95 a month
you can chat with women 24/7. I look at AOL as a 'woman simulator.'
You get on, start talking, and on the other end a woman simulator is
there to respond to all of your conversation. It's amazing. And the
added bonus is that if a woman turns out to be interesting, you can
actually meet her.
My point is simply to put on your thinking cap and ask yourself the
question: "If I were the kind of woman that I'd like to meet, where
would I hang out?"
Then start going to these places on different days and at different
times to see when the best times are.
I have a good friend that used to go to airports when flights were
arriving from different places, because some of the flights were more
likely to have attractive women on them.
I know one guy that loves to go to bookstores to meet women.
I know a guy that likes to go to 'Asian Dances' to meet women
(and he's not Asian).
Here are a few good general places: Dance lessons, gyms,
bookstores, coffee shops, supermarkets, healthy food restaurants,
yogurt shops, anything near salons and beauty supply stores.
If you start paying attention, you'll find places where women are
more likely to be.
As a side note, if you live in an out-of-the-way place, and you'd like
to start meeting a lot of fantastically beautiful women, you might
consider a move to a big city. I've found that the difference between,
say New York, Chicago, and L.A. vs. small towns is dramatic.
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Attractive women flock to the large cities because this is where the
opportunity is for them. This is also where they're more likely to meet
a rich, famous, or successful man.
I've been to places in big cities that had more beautiful women in
one restaurant than a person living in a small town might see all year.
So think about where you live, and how it relates to finding the
kind of woman or women that you're interested in.
I've also found that many women love the fantasy of 'accidentally'
meeting a man somewhere normal, but unexpected. This is a common
female fantasy.
Women like the idea of accidental romance.
And the best part of meeting a woman in a 'normal' place is the
fact that there are usually minimal distractions, and no others
competing for her attention.
So keep this in mind when you're out looking for potential mates.
How To Meet Women
OK, now let's talk about the nuts and bolts of how to meet women.
Guys are constantly trying to find new 'angles' and 'lines' so that it
can 'appear natural' when they talk to a woman. I mean, hell... most
women's fantasy is to meet a guy in a charming place and have this
whole unplanned romantic thing happen right out of a movie (irony:
unplanned and right out of a movie).
I really think that instead of trying to mask a pick up, just make it
damn good. If you can just be in the 'more interesting' category, you'll
get her attention, which is a major step. Then you can lean into the
cocky and funny routine and take it from there.
Don't try to hide the fact that you're picking a woman up - be great
at it, then get into cocky and funny (and reframe as them picking you
up! Ha).
The Initial Approach
This one is simple.
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I've tried probably 50 different types of 'lines' and techniques for
meeting women, and I've found that the simple ones work the best.
If I'm in an environment that has a lot of people, and I'm with a
friend, I like to start by asking a woman for her `opinion' on
something. Here's how it happens... first of all, I keep my eyes open
for current affairs and interesting trivia that involves gender
differences and tension. This makes for amazing conversation openers
with hot intelligent women.
My latest favorite: "Hey, let me ask you a question. My friend and I
were talking about something, and I think we need a female
perspective..." (This is a killer, by the way. It's taken me a long time to
figure this one out... but it kicks ass). Then I say "I was just looking on
the internet... and do you know that the average woman in America is
5' 4", weighs 150 pounds, and wears a size 14?" Ohhhhhhhhhh
DAMMIT
I LOVE THIS ONE!
They usually grab the ball and take off into the conversation with
just that.
Others include "Do you think that men understand what women
really want and need?" and "What do you think of this new trend of
women wanting to pay their own way... and the Charlie's Angel's
theme song that sings about this as almost a stuck up thing to do?"
You with me here?
After starting a conversation, get into Mr. Cocky and Funny mode,
and you'll do some good work.
If I'm alone, and the woman is alone/with friends I usually start
with a compliment opener... depending on the situation.
And I always try to tie it into the situation, so it doesn't sound
canned. Women that I run into can smell canned openers... I think that
they're getting popular again or something... because women can
sense them like a dog senses kitties.
I might say "Excuse me... I noticed
you when I walked in, and I had to take a second to find out what you
were like..." or something equally plausible sounding.
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What I've realized is... if you're going to approach a woman, what
you say doesn't much matter as much as HOW you say it (remember
the character thing?).
So keep a serious look on your face (no big cheesy smiles) as this
creates the feeling that you're not overly excited. Then speak with a
slow, mysterious confidence.
I've met many men who have big problems getting past the idea of
walking up to women that they don't know and starting a
conversation. In fact, I had a huge issue with this when I started
learning about how to deal with women. My best advice is to just go
for it, and keep doing it until you finally get over it.
One guy I know went to a mall one day and walked up to every
woman he saw to get over his fear. He said that he was sick for the
first several times, but it eventually went away. And then he did it
again another day, and the fear went away a little faster. Until now, he
can walk up to any woman, anywhere and start talking.
Just remember, the only power any woman has in your life is THAT
WHICH YOU GIVE HER. So don't give away any of your power. Keep
your power for you.
If you are turned away by her, or you get a rude person, just move
on to the next one. Persistence is the price of success.
Meeting Women Online
America Online is the greatest gift to lazy men who want to meet
women that has ever been created.
Think of it!
An environment where you get to lead with your personality and
not your looks... a place where the playing field is level... a place
where you can think about what you want to say before saying it... a
place where you can actually practice everything in slow motion!
Ahhh.
Step 1: Get an AOL account.
Step 2: Go to www.amihotornot.com and start placing different
pictures online to see which one gets the highest ratings. Take the one
or ones that get the best ratings and use them online (I personally
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tried several pictures. The worst picture got me an overall rating of 3,
the best got me an overall rating of over 8. Think about that! Same
guy, just a different picture! And the one that women liked the best
wasn't the one that I would have guessed. Go figure.
Step 3: Set up a free photopersonal on AOL, plus check out other
online personal sites. (Make sure you test pictures to get a good one!)
Step 4: Learn how to search the member directory on AOL and start
some conversations.
Step 5: Go to some chat rooms and just WATCH the conversations to
learn how to communicate online.
Step 6: Learn to type fast. Big advantage online.
Step 7: Use the communication skills that I'm teaching you to make
women laugh online. Humor is key.
Step 8: Get a woman on the phone as soon as you possibly can. Don't
become just another online pal. The longer you wait, the lower your
chances of meeting her.
Step 9: Get MORE THAN ONE picture! And ask if they still look like the
pictures that they sent. I have horror stories that you don't even want
to hear. Take my advice and ASK FOR DETAILS!
Step 10: Some women are very nervous about meeting people from
the internet. Some aren't. I like to make jokes about it and turn it
around. I say things like "Well, you seem really nice. I'd invite you to
call me, but I'm afraid that you might be one of these weirdoes... or
some guy pretending to be a woman..." Ha ha ha!
Get out there and practice this stuff. Learning the online world
takes awhile, but it's worth it if you like to meet women anytime you
feel like it.
Getting Them Interested In You
An important distinction that I've made which attracts women is to
never act too happy.
Women are intrigued by men who are calm and almost unaffected.
The real hotties are used to having men get nervous when talking to
them, and they can sense that you're different when you stay very
cool, and calmly talk to them.
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NEVER let them sense that you're too interested in the beginning.
I just read tonight in a book about cats that a cat will approach the
person in the room that is least interested in it. Somehow, cats can
detect when someone is paying no attention, and this is what attracts
them. WOMEN ARE THE SAME.
I know that this one doesn't make any sense, but if you will start
acting uninterested, you'll see that women will start giving you the
"What's wrong? You don't like me?" response. Now, you may think this
is manipulation, but I think of it as having fun, teasing, and
challenging. And by the way, I've told several women about this stuff
later on, after I got to know them better... and they ALL told me that it
worked and they're glad that I did it in one way or another.
Getting Phone Numbers And Email Addresses
I've personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers.
I've found that email addresses are far better.
Let me explain.
I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.
If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about
a minute. I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this
that numbers don't equal success.
You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their
phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call
them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But
the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal
experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, they'll often start acting
stand offish or even worse, just plain rude.
I've found that getting an email address is not only easier, but it
gets more positive responses later on.
It's almost like women appreciate it that you've taken the time to
think about what you're going to say when you write an email to them.
The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered
anytime.
If you call, you have to actually reach them.
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But an email can be answered anytime.
And I've found that emails are answered far more often than
voicemail messages.
Here's the how to:
After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I'll often say
something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm going to get back to
my friends." They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to
guys clinging. Then, just as I'm turning to walk away... and we kind of
disconnect... I turn back and say "Do you have email?"
If they say yes, I take out a pen and paper and have them write it
down. (This is great, as I just treat the `yes' that they give me as a
yes to get it from them as well. And they've ALL gone along with it so
far) Then I say "Write your number down there too." I won't go into all
of it, but this move is a powerhouse. When you ask for email, it's very
low risk for them... so they think "Fine, I'll do that"... and then when
they're already writing, I get the phone number too... which is more
natural.
If they say no, then I bust on them and say "Well, do you have
electricity?" Then I say "Well, OK then... I like email better, but I'll take
your regular phone number... it's so damn hard to reach people on the
phone these days."
I hope you get what just happened... OK, then, as they're writing I
say "Is this a number that you actually answer?" If not, then I say
"Look, write your real number down... it's going to be OK, I'll only call
you nine times a day." They laugh, and give me their real number.
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, I've tried all kinds of things. Many guys say "But what
do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?" I've never
had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows
why you asked. If she doesn't give it to you, then she also knew why
you asked. Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm
way, you'll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times.
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Chapter 8: How To Think About Dating
How To Get The First Meeting
First of all, my mindset. I have decided that I need about 20-30
minutes to get to know a woman before I decide that I'd like to invest
in getting to 'really' know her.
I actually like women who I enjoy, and who I'd enjoy seeing for
more than just one 'get laid' session.
So I like to a woman for a cup of tea and talk for a bit, or even let
that lead to a bite to eat sometimes. So my mindset is that I'M THERE
TO QUALIFY THEM. Not the other way around. They pick this up, and
respond accordingly.
Two Ways Women Think About Men And How You Control This
I believe that women see men that they get involved with as either
'long term relationship' material or 'sex' material. You have to make
the choice about which category you'd like to be in. By the way, if you
get involved sexually, you can usually extend that for the long term.
If, on the other hand, you don't get involved sexually, but you still
buy her dinner, call her all the time, and pursue her, there's a good
chance that you'll NEVER get involved with her sexually.
Many, if not most guys think that if they play the dating game that
they'll wind up 'getting some' eventually. This just isn't so. I've met so
many women that say "Well, I have this guy that I let buy me things
and take me out, and I have this other one that's my sex toy."
Now, admittedly this isn't all women. But believe me when I tell
you that if you get on the 'friendship' program, you're very likely to
stay there. And the friendship road is paved with gifts and dinners.
Trust me. If you do too many things for her, you're going to spend
a lot of time and $$$ and most likely never wind up with anything to
show for it other than a curious dry feeling just below your abdomen.
For the record, I really do like email communication better than
phone communication. I get probably 4 out of 5 women that I email to
email me back, as opposed to maybe 1 out of 2 or 3 calls returned the
first time.
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I write and say "Hey, it was nice meeting you last night... what are
you up to this week? Would you like to join me for a cup of something
wonderful and some stimulating conversation? Talk to me."
If they don't answer that one, I write back a couple of days later
"What, playing hard to get already? Nice. Talk to me."
I get most of them emailing me back by this point.
When they do, I say "What's your # and when's a good time to
reach you?"
Now, here's why I do this... Duh! When I email them, for some
reason they feel like we're friends because we've emailed back and
forth... don't ask me to explain it... it's taken me two and a half years
to figure it out.
They also return your calls after you've emailed them a couple of
times... again, don't ask me why, some freaky chick thing.
OK... so, now I'm on the phone with them (either because I've
emailed them, or because I just got a number and called). I want to
get together with them for about 30 minutes and see what they're like
as a person, and decide if they're someone that I'd like to know better.
I'll tell them that I was about to go do something (so I sound like I
have a life) and then say "Well, let's see... what's your schedule for the
next few days? (I chose a time...) Why don't we get together tomorrow
at about four. Do you know where the blah blah blah coffee shop is?
Great... if we get along, then maybe we can go for a bite to eat... but
you know, coffee is a safe bet... this way if you're scary in person, I
can say "Oh, hey... um... I just remembered that I have to go floss my
cat... it's really important..." and then we can call it a night."
This makes them laugh, but it also gets them thinking "Who the
hell is this guy to be qualifying Me?" which is perfect.
Next, I tell them that "The coffee place is close to my house, and
why don't they just meet me at my place, ring the bell, and I'll come
out and we can go... this way if she's a few minutes early or late, I
don't have to be waiting" (got this from a friend of mine who's a
genius)
Then I say "Now, let me ask you this... what are the chances that
you're going to not show up tomorrow? Because
one of my pet peeves is people that are late or flaky. I can deal with a
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lot of things, but I'm always on time and where I say I'm going to be,
and I never have an excuse or don't show up... so I just wanted to
make sure... because if there's one thing that could end our friendship
before it starts, it's flakiness." This sets the right tone for flaking, as
you can see.
***HERE COMES THE KILLER!
Next, when we're getting ready to hang up, I say something like
"Great, it's going to be nice to get to know you better. And if nothing
else, we can just be FRIENDS."
It's taken me and a good friend of mine a long time to get this
piece. From here on out, I constantly drop hints about just `being
friends' and how I really `like her as a friend' and how `it's nice to meet
someone that I like as a friend.'
Hear me on this one... this messes them up soooooo hard that they
literally don't know what to do.
This is most likely the first time IN THEIR ENTIRE LIFE that this has
happened to them. And it continually triggers their insecurity and
makes them wonder why they're not attractive enough to you. It also
disarms them completely. (You have to really have the mindset that
you are qualifying them, and that they're going to be your friend for
this to work)
I personally like to use the friendship talk because I have decided
that it's better to enter any new relationship in a NOT NEEDY frame of
mind. Talking about being friends remind ME to pay more attention,
remember that I don't need anything and stay focused on learning.
When You Meet
A good friend of mine points out that it's better to ask a women to
come to your house for the first meeting so you can leave from there
(On the phone you can say "Well, there's a great coffee shop right
near my place. Why don't you just ring my doorbell, and I'll come out
and we can leave together. This way, in case you're a few minutes
behind I won't have to wait...")
When they arrive, say hi, invite them in for a minute while you get
your coat or shoes. Then walk out, and seem like YOU'RE IN A HURRY
TO LEAVE. Most guys would try to get them to stay and get cozy with
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them. You want them to think that you're not overly interested, and
that you want some coffee.
Total indifference.
At coffee, just sit and be funny and cocky self, make jokes, and in
general lean back and make `friends.'
I used to analyze handwriting, do palmistry, do hand massages,
and touch women when I first met them. Not anymore (I save these
things for later).
Also, I used to be more touchy 'feely' with women at the very
beginning. As I mentioned, I'd massage their hands, and touch them a
lot, etc. leading to kissing etc. early on.
I've now learned that if I lean back and kind of almost don't touch
them at all on purpose, it creates this tension, so that when I do
actually touch them, they respond powerfully. In communication they
call this `Building Response Potential.'
Sometimes I'll massage hands or touch, but I don't overdo it.
I'm just sitting there ACTING LIKE WE'RE BEST FRIENDS. When
you act like a they're a best friend, they will rapidly get comfortable
with you. I make fun of people, whatever. I just totally lean back and
relax. I'm cool and relaxed, but at the same time making comments
about how we're going to be friends, etc.
I've learned never to compliment a hot woman on her looks,
period. I still mess up and forget, and I'm always reminded why I don't
do it. I try to find one thing that she's insecure about, and talk to her
about it like `a friend'... no overly critical, but not saying `no, you
shouldn't be insecure'... I just keep bringing it up, and even making
jokes about it.
Places To Go
I've learned that it's more interesting to GO somewhere and DO
something with a woman than it is to go on a 'date.'
If you want to do more than just have coffee with a woman,
consider going somewhere fun to shop. I prefer funky, eclectic
neighborhoods and shops. These are places full of wacky and fun
items. It will give you an ongoing, changing set of things to talk about.
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And the best part is that you don't have to buy anything.
When you go to these types of places, you can just have fun and
talk. Make sure you wander away from her a few times while you're
out. This keeps the "I'm not needy" thing going on.
Remember, you don't have to spend money to have fun.
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Chapter 8: Getting Physical
How To Take The Next Step
OK, so we're on the way home from coffee (because I said "OK,
let's go...") and we're back at my house. Here's one that I love... if it's
at night, look at your watch and say "Well, I have to get up in the
morning... but... OK, you can come in for a few minutes..."
That's great! You're talking to her like she's trying to convince you
to let her in, and she hasn't said anything! Nice. (Read it again if you
didn't pick up what I said)
Then I just walk in and let her follow. (By the way, again, I always
open doors for women, walk on the outside of the curb, and pull chairs
out etc.) If you act chivalrous and bust her balls at the same time,
you'll be rewarded with good things from Santa.
So now we're in the house... and I take her for a tour... and either
sit down on my bed to talk to her, or on the couch... wherever we kind
of wind up. And I just kind of get a little quieter and let her talk while I
look at her. I lean away from her and keep looking... sometimes
looking away as if I'm thinking about something.
Then, I reach over and start stroking her hair while she's talking. I
stroke down at the bottom first. If she's OK with this, I take it as a
sign that she's WAAYYYYY into me and is probably going to be wanting
sex within 60 minutes (if you have any doubts, ask a woman if she'll
let a guy stroke her hair while she's on his bed on the first date if she's
not into him).
This is a big piece of the puzzle that I've figured out... I used to do
all kinds of massages and other stuff, but I now use the simple hair
stroke test. If they like their hair stroked, they are at VERY LEAST
going to be making out with me in short order, period. I'll occasionally
do a hand massage here, or a little neck massage, but next I pull her
close to me and cuddle with her... and then land the killer.
I have personally always liked the way women smell... so when
she's laying next to me with me stroking her hair, I begin to smell her
shoulders... just a little at first, and then more and more... while
stroking her hair. Within about 5 or 10 minutes, I'm smelling her neck
and ears... no kissing, and no groping at all. Never! I'm just smelling,
then leaning back and acting like I'm completely enjoying the smelling,
and it's relaxing me. Try this, my friends... if you can keep on
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smelling... she'll get so turned on that you won't believe it! At some
point she'll try to kiss me... which is what I'm waiting for. I will let her
lips get close to mine... even touch just a teensy bit... and then I'll back
away. And keep smelling. I might say "Oh, you're kind of forward" ...
love it. After a few of these, I'll kiss her... and run my hands through
her hair... the whole romantic kiss thing... then, again, I'll stop. This
kind of teasing and teasing is very stimulating to women. They Love it.
I'm waiting for her to start doing something that is sexual... for
instance grinding her hips on me... or grabbing my ass... whatever.
When I'm patient, the woman will usually do something that is
subtly sexual FIRST. This is key, as she's then the aggressor....
Then I do a little verbal move and say "All you have to do is say
PLEASE."
I'm laughing as I write this... damn this is great.
So the first time, she'll say "No no no... I'm not going to beg
you..." and I just say "OK"...
Then I roll over or just lay back and look up... away from her. This
usually makes the woman begin to wonder what the heck is going on,
and come over and start cuddling, kissing, etc. me again.
I keep on with the sensual kissing, breathing in her ears... all that
good stuff... and when she gets worked up again and I hear her
breathing get faster, heart rate increase etc. I just say "All you have to
do is say PLEASE..."
OK, you get the idea... I keep doing this until she say's "OK OK,
please... please..."
If you need help on what to do after this, buy a copy of "How To
Drive Your Woman Wild In Bed" by Masterson and "Sexational Secrets"
by Bakos. Do it.
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Chapter 9: Keeping Her Attracted To You, Or "How
To Have a Long Term Relationship"
The Beginning of the End, Or the End of the Beginning
Once you've figured out how to attract women, you're bound to
find one that's particularly interesting to you.
One that you might actually, um, love.
One that you might want to keep around for a bit.
Hey, you might even meet someone that you want to spend the
rest of your life with.
Even though I've made most of this book about meeting women, I
don't feel that it would be complete without at least a few ideas on
how to keep a woman attracted to you for the long haul.
But first of all, here's my take on why relationships fail:
When you first start dating someone that you really like, the body
releases a combination of chemicals that are quite literally intoxicating.
These chemicals cause you to want to be with that person all the time,
stay up all night talking to them, and have sex three times a day.
But twelve to eighteen months later, the chemicals change. The
intoxicating chemicals are replaced by 'stability' chemicals. The 'stay-
up-all-night-can't-be-away-from-her-have-sex-three-times-a-day'
feeling goes away and the 'lets-settle-down-and-have-two-kids-and-
buy-a-minivan' chemicals take over. Deal with it. (If you want to
understand this process better, read 'The Alchemy of Love and Lust' by
Crenshaw)
So now that you know this, how do you keep this whole thing from
turning into an episode of All In The Family?
Well, the short answer is, keep up the fun, interesting,
unpredictable behavior. Notice the details. Do thoughtful things.
Here's something that I've learned in life: If you want to get back
more than you give, then play the stock market. It's not gonna happen
in relationships. In fact, if you want to get a lot back, you're probably
going to have to give even more.
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Most people are selfish, and they say "I'm not going to give more
than I get." But instead of getting a lot, all they get is old and
unhappy. I've found that it's much better to give a ton and get back a
lot in return, not caring about the fact that I didn't get as much as I
gave, than to give little or none and get back little or none.
Relationships aren't like investing. If you want a lot, get used to
giving more. But it's worth it in the end, because love and attention
and humor and fun aren't like money. If you give them out, you don't
have less. You have MORE. Get it?
Good luck, and do me a favor. Email me to let me know what you
thought of the book. Give me the good and the bad. I can be reached
at daviddeangelo@doubleyourdating.com.
I wish you the best.
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